Is Motherhood a Singular Experience?Kacy Faulconer
No. But it feels like it is.
It’s so weird when I talk to moms who are just like me. There are a lot. It’s weird because I think I’m so unique and interesting. But really we’re all the same. For example, you might be thinking to yourself, “I threw up my whole pregnancy. You don’t understand the depths of my agony and exhaustion.” But actually, a lot of people do understand. I think I’m unique because I’m a stay at home mom. But not just a stay at home mom. I’m not typical. Because I sometimes work part-time . . . and I blog. And I have a quirky sense of humor and I really like 30 Rock. Well, as it turns out, everyone does.
One day around New Years I went to Big Lots, bought new containers, and organized my kids’ closets. My friend had done the same thing. On the same day. At the same store. It’s pretty uncanny.
I don’t mind being like everybody else. It just surprises me because I think I’m so singular: I’m a good mom, but I’m not uptight. I’m very devout but I’m cool. I love TV and I also read. Whoopdee doo. So does everyone. I also tend to think my interests are unique and diverse and unpredictable. Predictably, I can go to YouTube and find a fan-made music compilation devoted to anything I’m interested in and any other clip I want that has already been “liked” by thousands of people. Hugh Grant singing with his eyes closed? Jimmy Fallon doing Call Me Maybe? It’s all there, man.
At the same time, it’s fun to find out that I’m simpatico with so many people. What? You like 30 Rock! NO WAY. Me too!
One of the most surprising things about having a baby was realizing that so many people had already done it. Everyone with a baby has done this? My MOM has done this? And you think you love your baby more than anyone loves their baby and you are so overwhelmed but then you realize everyone loves their babies. But I think that without lessening the intensity of it, we have so much in common and should feel a huge sense of camaraderie. You see someone with their new baby or an older mom spots you with your kids and we’re like, “I know, right!”