There’s a lot of talk right now about whether or not it’s OK to shame your child. Parents and educators are using embarrassing tactics to let the world know about a kid’s transgressions. Whether it’s putting a bullet into a teenager’s laptop in a YouTube video or making a child wear a sandwich board that says “I Steal,” there are a lot of ways to shame your kid. I’m guilty of it too. I shame my kid, and I’m proud of it.
I don’t make him wear a Dunce cap or write articles for Vogue magazine saying he’s a fatty. Nope. I make him ride in a 5-point harness carseat, and he’s 7 years old.
I embarrass the crap out of my kid every morning and every afternoon in the school pickup line when he has to be seen crawling in and out of his enormous carseat. He is shamed beyond belief when a friend carpools with us, and I make that child buckle up in a 5-point harness carseat as well. “My mom just lets me sit on the seat with the seat belt, Ms. Jen,” one friend said.
“Not in my car, sweetie. Please buckle up,” I replied smiling sweetly at him. In all reality I wanted to say, “Your mom doesn’t love you if she lets you do that.”
Some moms are sticklers about what their kids eat. I let my kids eat processed food and fast food. Some moms are sticklers about keeping an immaculate house. My house always has dust bunnies in the corner, a pile of mail on the counter and a mound of laundry somewhere waiting to be folded. We are messy, but not dirty. Some moms are sticklers about making every day a unique and special day. You know how I feel about that.
I am a stickler for carseats. Even when Gomer was an infant we put him in one of the safest carseats we could buy. When he was 3, he was growing out of his convertible carseat, and we were debating what to move him to next. The Hubs was pushing for a booster seat, because it would be easier. I wasn’t convinced. I started asking friends, and I found them to be split on the carseat/booster seat debate.
I didn’t know what to do. The booster seat was definitely cheaper, and I liked the idea it could be moved easily from one car to another instead of being anchored, tethered, and belted within an inch of its life, plus I couldn’t find a carseat that would last more than another year or so and I’d be buying a booster then.
I was just about to go with the booster seat when someone sent me this video.
When I watched this video, I learned about a carseat called the Britax Regent. (It’s no longer made, the equivalent is the Britax Frontier.) I went out the next day and bought the Regent and anchored, tethered, and belted the snot out of it. When Adolpha grew out of her convertible carseat, we bought her the Frontier.
These carseats can hold kids up to 80 lbs and since Gomer only weighs 55 lbs, it looks like I’ll be shaming him for a while.
Do you use a booster or a carseat for your school aged kid?
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