
If the fact that children learn by example freaks you out a little, join the club.
As a habitual yeller and freaker-outer in times of high stress, I’ve come to realize that I’m a little lazy in the “leading by example” department. Seeing my kids freak out over stupid crap just like their mama reminds me how far I have yet to go.
That’s not to say I suck entirely. Just the other day while driving, I pulled over for a screaming ambulance and said a prayer. When BooBoo asked who I was talking to, I told him I was asking God to protect the person who needed help. When he asked why, I told him it was just something I’ve always done. When someone, anyone needs help, I send a prayer; it’s my thing. My son loved the idea and has since been sending his own little prayers for people, animals, bugs – anyone who needs help. So while maybe my kid picked up ugly yelly habits from me, it’s comforting to know he’s also picking up the good stuff.
All this got me thinking about the positive things our kids pick up from us naturally. If we allow our kids catch us in the act of doing these simple things, we’re sure to make a lasting and positive impression. Now who’s with me?
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Talking positively about them
We never know when little ears are listening. Let's be sure to share all the wonderful things our kids are up to whenever possible. When we look on the bright side, the bright side shines brighter.
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Fighting fair
It's only natural for mom and dad to disagree sometimes. Let's remember to keep cool and fight fair when an argument strikes. Our children are learning about love, anger management, and conflict resolution from us. No pressure or anything.
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Making up
It's not unusual for parents to fight in front of the kids and make up behind closed doors. It serves our children well to witness apologies and G-rated make up sessions.
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Being kind
Offering a smile, showing respect, and helping a stranger may seem like little things but they teach big lessons.
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Building people up
Checking in on a friend, sending flowers, leaving an encouraging note, or offering a simple compliment show just how much we value the people we love. Beautiful gestures such as these won't go unnoticed.
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Telling the truth (even when it's hard)
It's so easy to spin a web of white lies under the watchful eye of our children. It's a powerful lesson to allow them to see us struggle with telling the truth in spite of the consequences. Chances are, they'll grow to do the same.
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Advocating for a cause
We all have causes that are close to our hearts. Get involved and allow your passion for compassion to be contagious!
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Showing affection
Hugs and laughter go a long way in every relationship. Let's allow our children to learn healthy lessons of love at home.
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Practicing gratitude
Appreciation for the little things can make a big impact. Let's decide to make the practice of gratitude an everyday occurrence in our households. Focusing on the positive just plain feels good.
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Choosing family
Whether our parents require care or not, allowing our children to see how much we love and care for our parents matters. Making family a priority in our lives builds a strong and lasting foundation for our children.
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Spending wisely
Diligent spending teaches our children lessons in managing priorities and saving for a rainy day.
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Asking for help
Pride should never stand in the way of asking for help when we need it. Our children deserve to know that help isn't about being weak, but rather, being smart.
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I loved this article. It is so true. The best way to teach our kids to be good people is to try our best to be good and be role models for them. This was a sweet and honest article about one Mom trying to do just that.
Thanks for your great articles,
Keep them coming.
Adina
http://www.parentingsimply.com
you forgot helping others. I feel that this is an important thing to show and teach our children. My 13 year old son has been involved in several Volunteer activities since he was 5, everything from animal rescue to Special Olympics. It has made him quite the outstanding citizen, I am so proud of who he is becoming!
Kelly, what a wonderful addition to the list. Thank you!
Reading real books! When we read on a screen (laptop, Kindle, etc), it isn’t apparent to our kids that we are reading. I think it helps them to value reading if they see us with hardcovers and paperbacks.
I think one very important thing that wasn’t addressed is admitting when you’re wrong. It’s sometimes hard and embarrassing to admit when you do something or get something wrong, but it’s important to do so, and to teach your kids how to do it. My parents would never admit when they were wrong about something, especially if they accused me of doing something I didn’t, and it really made an impact on me in that I thought it was important to stick to your guns even when I was in the wrong. I didn’t learn to admit when I made a mistake and how to apologize for it. Now I make a point to admit when I’m wrong about something and to apologize to my son when that happens so he’ll learn that mistakes happen, and it’s easier to admit to them and learn from them than to pretend they never happened.
What about READING?
In Telling the truth (even when it’s hard); does that include telling them the truth about Santa Claus?
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