Before my husband and I got married we talked a lot about what our family would look like — how many kids, when we wanted to start and if we wished to have a stay at home parent. That was an easy question to answer for me — a huge YES — I wanted to be able to stay home and raise my children.
We were able to make our hopes come true — both on the building our family front and being able to stay home to raise our children. The moment I was pregnant with Big P I quit my job and have been home with them ever since.
For the past 6 years I have been home with my children, but over the past year I have slowly transitioned from stay-at-home parent to work-from-home parent. This transition has been both awesome and hard:
Before working from home I always saw it as being the best of both worlds. Being able to contribute financially and being around all the time for the kids. It was a goal of mine for a few years to find a way to make that happen and over the year I have been able to make it work — thankfully.
I wanted to work for me — to be able to find a voice in this world, make a difference and being able to contribute to the house financially is something I am grateful I am able to do. Most of the difficulty with the new phase is that nothing else has changed.
I still take care of the kids full time. We have no babysitter, no mother’s helper and only 2 of my kids are in school part time (2x a week).
I am still in charge of all meals. I am still the primary house cleaner/laundry-doer. I still try to get all this done during the day while caring for the kids and work deadlines to meet.
I think this is a large reason why I feel that the idea of “balance” is a mythical creature. My daily to-do list is never cleared off at the end of the day. Usually if someone starts a new job or has added responsibilities there is a shift in the workload. There has been no shift here. I am not sure I want there to be a shift.
I want to have my cake and eat it too. I know that is the perfectionist in me talking. I want to be able to work, I want to be able to be the primary caregiver for my kids, I want to be a stay-at-home-mom… who works.
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