Married with Kids? Why We Should Be Planning Weekly Alone TimeDevan McGuinness
On an average week I don’t really see my husband too much. He works outside the house while I work from the home. The added thing here is that both of us would attach the label “workaholic” to our personality traits and work habits, even outside of “work” and into our family time.
I guess it’s a good thing that we both have the same work ethic and desire to continually grow, but when it comes to carving out time for each other, it can be tricky. I wish I could say it was generally only on the weekends, but the truth is … we really don’t spend a lot of time together when we’re not focusing our attention on other things as well.
When the kids go to bed, I use that time to either catch up on some housework or to work for the many freelance jobs I am juggling and the husband gets to work (again) on either work training/education or one of the many work-hobbies he has. Many times we do this in the same room, but really it’s not the same.
There has been a lot of news about celebrities breaking up and separating and getting divorced. I have seen a few friends go through the same thing and I would be lying if I said I never worry about it touching our relationship.
We have been married for 8 years now, together for 12 years, and we have three kids but stranger things have happened, and divorces seem to pop up out of nowhere. Sure, I am not in their relationship so I can’t know for sure what is going on behind the scenes, but I want to make sure I am doing what I can to sort of “divorce proof” our marriage, if you can do that… I don’t know.
My husband and I have a good relationship and I wouldn’t say there are any dark clouds above our heads or skeletons in our closet, but I do think that if we increased our quality time together, it would do us a world of good.
I don’t remember the last evening (or honestly even 2 hours) where we just hung out— no computer, no work, no smart phone … just each other. I don’t even know if I could do that and I know that is the big indicator that we should be doing that!
:: do you and your partner make scheduled time for each other? ::
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