He works outside the home. I work inside the home. The kids work us both to death.
There’s been a lot written about moms reclaiming time for themselves and while all of that sounds deliciously important, how many of us actually do it? I’m guessing not enough.
I don’t remember signing a waiver in my hospital discharge paperwork giving up every last ounce of myself once I gave birth. Well, maybe I did, I may have been too high on Dermoplast fumes to remember. I’ve often wondered what it says to our kids when we give and we give and we give and give some more. It obviously says that we’re selfless (gold star!) but it might even say something we don’t want it to – that we don’t need (or gasp! even deserve) a time-out.
If you’ve found yourself going around with a permanent scowl or desperate screaming inside your head, chances are you need a breather – and why wouldn’t you? When was the last time someone took care of you? I’m talking really, really took care of you in a way that left you feeling totally whole? Perhaps never.
We can’t wait for an engraved invitation to take care of ourselves. We need to take what needs taking because ironically, it’s the most selfless thing we can do. Taking time for ourselves is instrumental in our ability to take care of others. A happy mom is a better and more patient mom and wife. We don’t need permission; what we need is the lady balls to do it.
With a schedule; it’s the only way. Like dental cleanings and hair appointments, if we don’t carve out the time it will never get done. While scheduling a little “me” time isn’t nearly as romantic as a surprise bubble bath and a glass of red by candlelight prepared by your loving spouse who insists on watching the children, it’s a heck of a lot more possible.
Do you take time for yourself? How do you do it?