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Me Time: We Can't Wait For an Invitation

By Lori Garcia |

Arguably the biggest and most passionate ongoing fight I have with my husband is over time; there’s just not enough of it.

He works outside the home. I work inside the home. The kids work us both to death.

There’s been a lot written about moms reclaiming time for themselves and while all of that sounds deliciously important, how many of us actually do it? I’m guessing not enough.

I don’t remember signing a waiver in my hospital discharge paperwork giving up every last ounce of myself once I gave birth. Well, maybe I did, I may have been too high on Dermoplast fumes to remember. I’ve often wondered what it says to our kids when we give and we give and we give and give some more. It obviously says that we’re selfless (gold star!) but it might even say something we don’t want it to – that we don’t need (or gasp! even deserve) a time-out.

If you’ve found yourself going around with a permanent scowl or desperate screaming inside your head, chances are you need a breather – and why wouldn’t you? When was the last time someone took care of you? I’m talking really, really took care of you in a way that left you feeling totally whole? Perhaps never.

We can’t wait for an engraved invitation to take care of ourselves. We need to take what needs taking because ironically, it’s the most selfless thing we can do. Taking time for ourselves is instrumental in our ability to take care of others. A happy mom is a better and more patient mom and wife. We don’t need permission; what we need is the lady balls to do it.

But how?

With a schedule; it’s the only way. Like dental cleanings and hair appointments, if we don’t carve out the time it will never get done. While scheduling a little “me” time isn’t nearly as romantic as a surprise bubble bath and a glass of red by candlelight prepared by your loving spouse who insists on watching the children, it’s a heck of a lot more possible.

Do you take time for yourself? How do you do it?

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Lori Garcia

Lori Garcia is a writer and mother of two living and loving in Southern California. When she's not fussing with her bangs, you can find her shaking her groove thing on her personal blog, Mommyfriend where she almost never combines true tales of motherhood and mayhem with her degree in child development. Read bio and latest posts → Read Lori's latest posts →

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4 thoughts on “Me Time: We Can't Wait For an Invitation

  1. Tara F. says:

    Love this! It’s all so very true!! I definitely don’t take enough time for myself at all. I’m always telling my DH to go out, “Oh, go honey, watch the game. You deserve to have time out!” Me, on the other hand, I sometimes feel guilty, but I know I need and I too deserve the time. I’m excited because I’m getting out for a girls night tomorrow. Can’t wait. It’s been too long.

  2. Elizabeth says:

    yes I do. It varies in how I do it. Sometimes “me time” is just going grocery shopping on a sunday afternoon/evening ALONE with my ipod*phone* music on and coupons at the ready. I also enjoy Target alot if I can go alone. I could just stay there for hours. I do have a core group of friends and we usually try to schedule some sort of “night” out or in at least every 2 months – its definitely needed!

  3. Lynn Steinberg says:

    I do by taking a horse riding lesson every Tuesday morning. It is the only thing I have found that totally clears my mind and emotionally prepares me for my extremely busy week.

  4. Kristin says:

    I get 4-5 minutes per day, if I’m lucky. A full time job and two babies dont afford me much more than that. Once a month though, my husband watches the boys while I go scrapbooking with a group all day. I feel bad leaving them for 9 hours, but I will go crazy if I continue to get a half hour a week to breathe and clear my head. Once a week, I get up on 3-4 hours of sleep and go to the gym for an hour.

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