If you have been reading along here at Babble Kids for the last 11 months there is one thing you have probably noticed about me by now. I am a chronic worrier. Some might even go so far as to say I am a helicopter parent. I am always on the look out for danger or imminent doom. I stay close by when Anders and Danica are playing, especially outdoors, and I am unapologetic about it.
No offense, free range parents. When I see you way off in the distance as your toddler plays alone on a trip to the park I admire your nerves of steel … I just do so while standing under the playground equipment arms open, just in case my child trips and tumbles perilously to the ground. (Look, slides can be dangerous.)
Bodily injury makes my top ten list of things to worry over when I lay my head down at night, but you may be surprised to learn it does not hold the top spot. No, number one is reserved for what I fear does the most damage to my children on a semi-daily basis. What is that you may ask?
Well, I’m a little embarrassed to admit this, but I worry that I yell at my children too often. I don’t mean to … you see, it’s just sometimes it feels like the only way to get through to them. Then I realize that I am screaming at the top of my lungs for them to stop screaming and then inevitably one of them screams back at me and then my husband steps in to scream at us all to stop screaming and then we are one big family of screaming screamers.
It’s only a matter of time until one of the kids collapses into tears and then I do the same and then suddenly we are one big family of cry babies. You should see our budget for aspirin and Tylenol. It’s how we stimulate the economy.
I realize that raising my voice to Anders and Danica sets a bad example for them. It is not a good model for how to express frustration, but I feel like taking a firm tone with them gets me nowhere.
Do you yell at your children? What ways have you found to be more effective than raising your voice? I’ll take all the advice I can get.
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