My Boys, Their Relationship, and the Beach - An Ever Evolving Story

Because we live in a beach community, we spend a lot of time by the sea. It’s easy to decide to head to the beach on a whim, and it’s often a requested activity by my kids. We go on sunny days, cloudy days, windy days and cool days. There’s always something to keep us entertained.

It hasn’t always been an ideal destination, though. Each kid has gone through a stage of hating various aspects of the ocean, and, honestly, dragging arguing siblings to the beach is often at the bottom of my wish list.

But usually, as soon as we get there, the current disagreement between the boys melts away and they are suddenly the best of friends. They play together and they laugh together and it is music to my ears.

Over the years, it’s been fun to watch each of the boys get used to visiting the beach, and to see their relationships change with one another. As I looked through photos from a recent visit, I was reminded of the reliability of these stages and experiences. You can see some of them below.

  • Watching from Afar 1 of 10
    Watching from Afar
    Ollie has gone through many stages of beach emotions recently. As an infant he was happy to stick his feet in the sand and feel it between his toes. As a 1-year-old he decided it tasted pretty good, too, and he's spend most of his time trying to eat it! As an 18-month-old he hated the feel of it on his feet, and as an almost 2-year-old he tolerates walking in it, but doesn't love to have it on his hands.
  • The Brothers Won Him Over 2 of 10
    The Brothers Won Him Over
    Watching his brothers playing convinced him it was time to get over his issues.
  • A Nice Place to Sit…For One 3 of 10
    A Nice Place to Sit...For One
    Zachary tried in vain to get Oliver to sit down next to him on a big piece of driftwood, but Ollie wanted no part of the sitting. Climbing over it was so much more fun!
  • Getting Closer 4 of 10
    Getting Closer
    Aside from his sand issues, Oliver is pretty freaked out by the water as well. He does not like for his feet to get wet in the ocean, and was playing a risky game by throwing his ball close to the water line. I was usually the one who had to go save it for him.
  • Sand! 5 of 10
    As his brothers play in the water behind him, he takes the time to enjoy having the sand toys to himself. And he's even touching it! With his hands! On purpose!
  • Water Play 6 of 10
    Water Play
    Up until this summer the boys have spend the majority of their ocean time knee deep in the water, jumping over the surf.
  • Body Surfing 7 of 10
    Body Surfing
    This is the first summer they've been brave enough to actually get the water to body surf. They now thing it's the greatest thing ever.
  • Goofball 8 of 10
    Our mandatory rule of 30 minutes of dry time (so we don't have wet sand to remove) before leaving led to some play time in a giant sand hole.
  • A Sweet Moment 9 of 10
    A Sweet Moment
    And an unprompted, sweet moment between brothers.
  • The Three Amigos 10 of 10
    The Three Amigos
    It's so fun to watch them, and their relationships, develop. Even through the ups and downs. I can't wait to see what our future beach outings have in store for us.

Don’t miss my post 12 Insider Tips: What to Bring to the Beach When You Have Kids

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