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On Moms, Daughters, and Dressing Rooms

By Lori Garcia |

I  was trying on clothes with reckless abandon in a JC Penney dressing room when I witnessed an unexpected and beautiful mom moment.

As I was shoving my mom thighs into a pair of low rise skinny jeans I had no business wearing, a teenage girl and her mother in the dressing room next door were arguing over dresses. The flurry of hanger activity suggested they’d been there a while. Deep sighs from the daughter and her assumingly overbearing mother made me giggle inside and give a silent thanks that I’ll never be in this position with my sons.

Suddenly the teenage girl begs her mom take her home. “Why are we doing this mom? I look so fat and stupid in everything,” she cried. My heart began to sink as I attempted to peel the skinny jeans from my unforgiving calves. “Mom, I just want to go home,” she sniffed.

Her mom coerced her to exit the dressing room to get a better view of how beautiful she looked in the larger mirror outside the stall. As I gathered up the jeans I would absolutely not be purchasing and exited the stall, I found the mother hugging her overweight daughter in a large full-length mirror. “Honey, you’re beautiful, and special. We’ll spend all day searching for the perfect outfit that makes you feel as beautiful as you are,” says Mom. Gulp.

I pretended not to notice the beautiful mom moment and with tears filling my eyes (hello, PMS) I headed back to the Levi’s display for the next two sizes up. By the time I returned, the teenage girl had changed into a black and white dress with a thin kelly green belt. As she inspected and criticized every angle of her body in that flirty dress, I uncharacteristically stopped to look at her. She looked beautiful. And she deserved to know.

“Excuse me, I don’t mean to interrupt but you look great in that dress,” I said, “I don’t know what the occasion is, but I’m thinking this dress is perfect on you.” Embarrassed by my candor, she uttered, “Uh, um. Thanks, it’s for a date. Well, my first date.”

“Well, it’s perfect on you and he’s lucky to have such a hot date,” I winked as I headed back into the dressing room.

“See! Even a stranger thinks you look beautiful!” said her mom, “I don’t expect you to love everything about how you look, Michelle. I know how hard that is and I was a teenager once too. I’ve never lied to you Honey, you’re beautiful.” What a mom.

For a mere moment I caught a glimpse of how difficult the teenage years must be for mothers of daughters. To be a mom who was once a teen girl herself, knowing what it was like to be gawky and awkward. To have bad skin and low self-confidence. Comparing herself to others, feeling undeserving, worrying about him noticing you, and ultimately, keeping him interested once he does.

To watch your beautiful daughter wade through the tumultuous journey of self-acceptance can’t be easy. But this mom was there, in it, right next to her daughter, Michelle, and it wasn’t beautiful.

Michelle, I know you’ll never read this, but I really hope your date went well. I saw the beauty your mother desperately hopes you’ll recognize in time. If your date had half a brain, he did too.

Moms of daughters, do you worry about your daughter’s self-acceptance?

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About Lori Garcia

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Lori Garcia

Lori Garcia is a writer and mother of two living and loving in Southern California. When she's not fussing with her bangs, you can find her shaking her groove thing on her personal blog, Mommyfriend where she almost never combines true tales of motherhood and mayhem with her degree in child development. Read bio and latest posts → Read Lori's latest posts →

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One thought on “On Moms, Daughters, and Dressing Rooms

  1. Marissa says:

    What a great moment! I will never forget when I was looking for my first ever formal dance dress (the “man of my dreams” was my date) The long, awful process-the tears and fears…my mom put up with me luckily. Looking back, I shouldn’t have had any qualms with my body. Being a gymnast I was very conscious of my weight and would give anything for those abs today! I also had no chest and of course every dress required one in my eyes to look good. When I finally found my dream dress (which cost $100 more than my mom could afford) with tears in our eyes she knew how happy I was and worked extra so I could wear it. Even though everything I put on she said looked beautiful it’s such a tough age to feel it with those 14 year old hormones raging!

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