Every Wednesday, Bella and I pile into the car to make a 30 — 45 min trek over to the west side of El Paso. This is where her play therapist’s office is, and we’ve been going there for nearly two years now.
What was first a bump in our week, and a pain because of the time it took, turned into a day I now look forward to. Depending on the moods we’re in, we’ll talk about what we see on the road, listen to music (and by music I mean Frozen on repeat), or I’ll call someone on the Bluetooth phone so we can say hi.
I use the 45 minutes she’s in her session to catch up on emails and text friends. I need to be in the waiting room in case she needs me (bathroom break, etc).
After she’s done, we head to lunch together. Usually, this means Chipotle, a Tex-Mex place where everything is made fresh. Bella calls it ‘potle and of course it’s so darling I’m never going to correct her. ‘Potle till she’s 90 for all I care. If there’s room (it’s next to a college campus) we eat there. If not, we bundle it up and she eats on the way home.
This past week, we headed to Chili’s instead. Waiting for lunch, we colored in her placemat and she talked to me about Daddy taking her to lunch during my last conference trip. We chatted on the rest of the week, her session with her play therapist, the small dinosaur she’d brought with her.
It’s simple, but it’s important. Even though I’m with Bella so much physically, I can get so busy that I forget to slow down and truly be present with her. Our mom and daughter dates allow me to do that.
This is a weekly reminder to just sit, talk, listen to her babble on about random things. It’s gone from something I thought would be a few months of interruption to a part of our life I want to continue long after her play therapy ends.
Diana blogs at Diana Wrote about her life with a daughter here and three sons in heaven, life as an army wife, and her faith. You can also find her work on Liberating Working Moms, She Reads Truth, Still Standing Magazine, The New York Times, and The Huffington Post, with smaller glimpses into her day on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. More from Diana: