I’d like to thank everyone for praying for me after my post about why I will never take my kids to church.
I get that church is important to many of you. Fellow Kid Scooper, Kacy Faulconer, wrote a great post about how church helps her raise her family.
While I’m fully supportive of the charity and community that churches foster, there’s an entire underbelly that just doesn’t do it for me – the part that has white churches not marrying black couples, or the part where kids with down syndrome can’t get communion, or the part where pregnancy by rape is a “gift from god” – well, that and the fact that god doesn’t exist.
I have expanded on my previous post and I’m going to give you some reasons why I think not believing in god can help you be a better parent. So after the Mommy Wars, and the Daddy Wars, I give you the Holy Wars.
The idea of raising children without religion is called Parenting Beyond Belief. It’s about raising kids who are free-thinkers, and can critically evaluate a debate without an inherent bias because of religious doctrine. Atheists still want to raise caring, ethical, and moral kids – we just don’t believe in god.
A colleague of mine, Derek K Miller, wrote a post about free-thinking kids for my DadCAMP blog before he passed away:
“Of course my daughters are different from me, and they might develop or adopt spiritual beliefs as they grow up,” Derek wrote. “I want them to make decisions about how they view themselves in the universe, rather than having a viewpoint imposed on them. I hope they do so as free-thinking individuals, with as much knowledge as they can accumulate.”
Instead of imposing one doctrine to my kids, I will expose them to a world of cultures, and let them make the determination of what is important and valuable as they make their own journeys through life. My children will start life with a clean slate without influence. I want my children to learn to believe in people and to believe in themselves before they put their hope in mythology.
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