POLL: Is This Outfit Too Girly For My Son?
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There has already been some playground teasing in the first month of kindergarten for my son.
He likes to play with everybody, and after one day of lunch with the girls, some of his boy friends said “You’re Monica’s girlfriend.”
When we chose the names for our boys, my wife was very careful to play the nickname game. She rhymed out every possible name for the boys with our last name to make sure there were no teasable nicknames that could be made.
Now we’re worrying about his clothes. We don’t like to dress our kids in dark and drab outfits. Last year they had bright orange winter coats, this year none were to be found. So we chose bright blue.
My wife bought the snowsuit at the left, and despite loving it, she’s worried she bought a girl’s outfit for our son.
Even at the store she wasn’t sure if she had bought a boy’s suit or a girl’s suit. “What kind of child do you think I have?” she asked the clerk. “A girl,” he responded. She bought it anyway.
Last night she had a dream about the snowsuit. Well, more like a Mom-nightmare. She dreamt that three other girls in my son’s class showed up on the first day of snow wearing the exact same suit. They were all playing Ring Around the Rosie, and our son was the Pig in the Middle as all the classmates teased.
“What would you say if someone says you look like a girl?” We asked him as he tried the suit on at breakfast this morning. “Would you care?”
“No.” he said. “I would say I don’t like you saying that to me.”
“Do you still want it, or should I get a red one?”
“Nooooo, I love it!”
But still we wonder.
So, Babble, I need some help – what do you think? Is it a girly outfit? Does it matter? Would you buy this for your 5 year old son?
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Uh, no.
Seems like you’re projecting your own biases on your kid. Natural yes, but utterly unnecessary. Does it fit? Will it keep him warm? Does he like it?
What else matters?
So what, it doesn’t have … I dunno, guns, or planes, or other strangely-associated “boy” iconography on it. Or, it’s not blue *enough*. I’m sure you can see my eyes rolling through the screen.
Knowing how old Z is … he’s going to get teased or not by his peers. If not over the colour of his snowsuit, then over something else. They’re kids. They’re still figuring things out, including social interactions and social order.
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Thats the blue color that all the teenage skater boys wear. Totally boyish, and definitely in style. Your kid will be the coolest!
I don’t see it as girly at all. Looks awesome!
Not girly to me at all.
You’ve already answered your own question. Your son loves the snowsuit. He has an intelligent comeback if someone makes fun of him. If your son asked for a pink snowsuit would you say no? Let the child have what he wants. It’s about HIM, not YOU.
Thanks for the reminder Melissa, you’re exactly right.
You have an opportunity to raise a child to be a strong independent individual here, or you can subject him to all of your and your wife’s insecurities and not prepare him for the real world. It’s going to be your choice what tools you give your kids for the future. It sounds like you son is pretty special either because of or in spite of your child rearing. I suggest you figure out which and continue or correct.