It’s been quite the week here on Babble.
Cody’s 10 Things Moms Do Better Than Dads got things going with what was intended to be a Mother’s Day ode turned sour. When Babble’s Facebook page asked if anyone would add something to the list, dozens of smug Moms added “everything,” while Dads were pleading to be treated as equals in the parenting equation.
Then, when a study that found that 3/4 of women love their kids more than their husband hit the streets this week, the women broke into song again, deriding the men that gave their children life.
While many didn’t like the question, didn’t think it was fair, and simply said the love they have for their kids and their husband “is different,” others saw it as a chance to take a swipe at men.
Krista Wales got things started early with, “I only “like” my husband for the sake of the kids!!! LOL”.
Sorry, Krista (and the 17 people who added a “Like” to her comment), that’s not an LOL. It’s actually kind of sad.
“It may not be funny, Buzz … but for many women its true!” commented Tammy Tamara Tamtam. “Sorry but I love my kids before any man cause a man can be here today and then they gone tomorrow my kids will always come before my husband that’s my opinion.”
“You can always replace a man,” echoed Heather Burnett. “But you can NEVER. Replace your CHILDREN …. 75% REALLY!?!?!?!?! Wow has to be young teens or drug using mothers to say husbands over kids!”
“My kids are my world,” wrote AmandaCorey Schlein before taking the knife, turning it, and plunging it deeper. “My husband’s just an accessory.”
Well, that was the last straw for the more reasonable people on the discussion, who were actually debating the different kinds of love you have for your kids and husband.
“Gosh Amanda I feel bad for your husband,” wrote Jaclyn Stem. “Does he know you just see him as an accessory? That’s really messed up.”
My husband’s just an accessory.
“I think this ‘Men are expendable’ attitude is part of the reason why a lot of men bail on their responsibilities,” added Migzilla Candia, standing up for the guys. “I’m not making excuses for them (I’m not one of those guys), but can understand the feeling.”
“By looking at these responses, it’s easy to see why so many couples get divorced when the kids leave the house,” added Matt Peregoy. “They haven’t worked on their relationship while raising their kids and then the kids are gone and they feel like they don’t know each other. It’s really sad.”
The guys were feeling the attacks, and hurting, but thankfully there was one Mom who sees parenting as a Team Sport, where both partners contribute to make things work.
After reading the post, Megan Leary turned to her husband and asked, “Can we agree now that we love our daughter more than each other?” Without skipping a beat he said, “Absolutely!” She then gleefully posted, “We have a very happy, healthy and loving marriage and will be together forevah!
Exactly. Enough of the Mommy Wars, Daddy Wars, and Mommy vs. Daddy Wars. We’re on the same team, and it’s time to start acting like it.
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