Sibling rivalry is by far my biggest challenge as a mom.
When I’m not playing referee without the nifty whistle, I’m wondering why I ever thought having kids five years apart would mitigate rivalry. I thought my eldest would act as mentor who’d teach and protect. In turn, my youngest would admire and respect his older brother. While I hope some of that stuff is happening deep within their power struggle, the fact is, all siblings argue. They’ll fight over big stuff, small stuff, and mostly really stupid stuff.
It recently dawned on me that fighting is actually fun for my kids, like super fun. Could it be that one day their super-fantastic brotherhood will blossom as a result of all this fighting? Lawd, I hope so.
While sibling rivalry is responsible for parents teetering on the edge of insanity, it’s important keep it in perspective. Sibling squabbles are actually good for kids, and a necessary part of child development.
Check out these 6 reasons why sibling rivalry is good for kids after the jump!
Despite the tension between my kids, every now and again I witness a glimmer of true brotherhood. Sometimes when they think no one is looking, they show each other real tenderness and genuine compassion. In those moments I think for half a second that I’m doing something right, and then one of them pokes the other in the eye quite on purpose and I snap back to reality.
Do your kids argue all the time?
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