There is no doubt that once you have kids, your stress level will go up. I know that I am more stressed and it’s totally understandable. As a parent, you’re now responsible for the lives of others. You have their nutrition, happiness, safety, education, and social life all in your hands and if you’ve got a perfectionist personality, it can get very stressful.
It certainly doesn’t help that there is a lot of criticism that comes with parenting. We get it from experts, from friends, from family, and other moms. Everyone seems to have an opinion on how to “do it right” that it’s no wonder that the stress just keeps piling on.
Parenting is quite an adjustment and with each new child added to the family, a new routine has to be found. That alone can be stressful, but I believe that it doesn’t necessarily have to be that way. A survey that was released exclusively by TODAYMoms.com on Monday, asked more than 7,000 moms to answer questions online based on stress-levels and mothering. The results — they were interesting.
For me personally, when we added a third child to the family, I didn’t find this transition nearly as difficult as I did going from zero to one. That was the biggest adjustment for me as I was learning how to mother, how to read cues, function on little sleep, navigate all the conflicting parenting information, and trying to find my groove. When we had baby number 2, I was still relatively new at the whole mothering thing, but I was already in the groove. By the time I had three kids, that transition was the easiest for me because I already felt like I knew what I was doing.
It’s amazing what that confidence can do for a stress-level. I have never really felt too much stress about being the “perfect mom,” but I always feel like I am doing the best that I can. I am not afraid to make mistakes, apologize, learn from them, and move on without too much dwelling. I know that there is so much pressure put on us by others (and ourselves) to be that “perfect mom,” but I have very quickly learned that most of us are all doing the best we can.
I asked my Facebook friends to share what number of kids was the hardest transition for them and the answers varied quite a lot:
“I only have one, but I would say 0 to dog was harder! ha.” — Sunny
“1-2. With the first he just fit into our lives and we lived around his schedule. 2nd was harder as trying to do a baby schedule with sleeping and feeding while having a 4 year old wanting attention and to do things.” — Nolie
“Going from 0-1 was SUCH a life adjustment. Going from 1-2 was easy because I already knew what to expect.” — Jen
“I seriously don’t think I could handle 3! 2 is good for me and I didn’t find either transition difficult. I think at this point the biggest hurdle is money and time. At what point does’one more’ affect the others abilities to be involved in organized activities etc. I think that was the biggest deciding factor for us to stop at 2.” — Jacqueline
“1-2 because you are then out numbered lol and 3-4 because your older ones are in sports and school and you are just pulled in so many different directions, all at the same time.” — Summerlea
:: What was the hardest transition for you? Is there a number of kids you think you’d just get used to it or is there a “too many” limit for you? ::
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Source: Mom survey says: Three is the most stressful number of kids – TODAY
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