Conventional wisdom is that Mommy Blogs arose from the solitary life that Moms felt when they stayed home with their kids. Actually, it seems the communities that parents form online are just a natural extension of the communities and friendship circles they are already forming in real life.
Don’t complain that your kids are a detriment to your social life, according to a new survey from Nature’s Purest, moms have more friends, not less.
The average woman has 13 friends. These are IRL friends, not the circles you have on Facebook. The survey found that after a child, the circle balloons to 22 in the first year, and grows to 27 once your kids start going to school.
The reasons are obvious – our kids are not anchors to the home, but are social tools that have us sharing experiences and meeting people in our community.
Half of the Moms admit that once they have kids, they find it easier to bond with other women. 4 in 10 say that comes from feeling more comfortable sharing intimate and personal details with other Moms. Kids are ice breakers. You see someone else with a child and you immediately feel a kinship with them.
Sue Firth, a psychologist who has two children, told the Queensland Times: “There is a strange shift. At no other time in your life do you unzip your guts and just start talking in quite the same way.” As a result, this is one of the few times in your life when “it is OK to say you don’t know, to admit to your vulnerabilities”.
70 per cent said it was easier to talk to other Moms because they had ‘so much in common’ with them. The topic of conversation is usually birth and labor stories with many of the Moms meeting each other at prenatal classes and continuing the friendships afterwards.
How has your circle of friends changed since you had kids?
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