Talking to the Kids About Having Another Child Before We're ExpectingDevan McGuinness
It’s been almost a year since I started sharing our baby fever and trying to conceive journey here on Babble (over on Being Pregnant). We’re not there yet, but we’re hopeful and it’s been a big part of our lives lately.
So much so that we’ve actually brought our kids into the discussion and plans to add another kid to the family. They were a big part in our planning on when and if to add another child to our mix and keeping it a secret from them would be too much — simply because I talk about it all the time. Not in that creepy just-be-quiet-now kind of way, but you know, I am excited.
I think it’s been really good for the kids even though it’s taken us longer than we hope and we’re still on the fence on when we would share the news with them should I get pregnant (another topic for another post). It has really opened up a good dialogue between the kids and my husband and I — they are asking all sorts of fun questions:
They have been very curious about how babies are made, where they grow, and how they come out. We answer them medically to what we feel is good for their age group. It’s been great to foster that relationship where they are comfortable with asking us these type of questions.
It’s also sparked a cool interest from the kids for their own experiences in utero. It’s been a great opportunity to share with them the nicknames we’ve given them when I was pregnant with them. We talk a lot about what foods I ate all the time when I was pregnant (they call it the food that they loved to eat when they were not born yet) and it’s been fun for me to reminisce!
They have even already picked out the nickname for the (hopeful) baby that will be a part of our life soon.
It’s also allowed for some time for them to ask questions about what babies are like. We talk about how they cry and why they cry. Chat about ‘mommy milk’ and how a new baby doesn’t need to eat anything else and how important they will be in the role as well. It’s been so much fun and as much as I wish we could be pregnant already, it’s been great to have this opportunity to talk with the kids before it’s already happening and help them feel safe in our decision (though, they don’t really get it yet).
:: Did you talk to your kids before you got pregnant about adding another baby to the mix? ::
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