Disciplining has never been one of my favorite things. In fact, I very often call my husband on the phone while my children are misbehaving.
It is tough for me and I have to work hard to make certain that I am raising good human beings. As a result, effective discipline is absolutely necessary.
Here are some tips that work for me:
Know Your Child’s Limitations.
Since we know kid’s emotions are at varying levels and they develop at different rates, discipline must really be tailored to the child. They need to understand what they did wrong and what you are asking them to do.
Count to 10.
Step back from the situation. Before you say no or tell your child they cannot do something, ask yourself if it is really necessary to say no. Or if you find yourself getting very angry, step back and re-evaluate. Counting or walking away for just a moment can give you a much needed opportunity to figure things out.
Be Strong. Be firm.
I have always had a hard time with this. If you tell your child that there will be consequences for their actions, then make certain there are consequences. Children quickly learn what they can get away with or not.
Keep your rules the same. If they must stay in bed at night after being tucked in, letting them get out of bed just once or twice will let them know that they can continue to push the limits. And they will!
We always talk about what they did, why they were disciplined and how it made them feel. Every moment like this can be a teaching lesson.
Be A Role Model.
You don’t have to be perfect. When you make mistakes, apologize and move on. Expect the same from your child.
What are your tips for making discipline more effective?
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