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10 Things You Should Never Say to a Stay-At-Home Parent

There really is nothing that can prepare you for the job of stay-at-home parent. It’s ever changing, constantly chaotic and can leave you with a feeling of cabin-fever. I have been in this position for just over 6 years — though now I am a work-from-home-parent (which is a whole different story), and I am still amazed with how little what we do is understood.

The image that comes to mind when I hear ‘stay at home mom’ is June Cleaver — a perfectly coifed woman with perfect meals, perfectly clean house and the rest of the time she spends sleeping or watching tv. In today’s world where many families have to have a dual income to keep their house running — it can be misunderstood as a luxury. I assure you, it’s hard work that comes with a lot of sacrifice but a decision that should be respected (just like for parents who work outside the house).

Click through to read 10 things you should NEVER say to a stay-at-home-parent:

  • “What do you and your partner talk about?” 1 of 10
    "What do you and your partner talk about?"
    Why?: Assuming that the SAHP has nothing stimulating to say is so insulting.
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    Why?: SAHP are so busy that assuming all they do is clean shows you don't know all they do.
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  • “When do you plan to get a real job?” 3 of 10
    "When do you plan to get a real job?"
    Why?: Being a SAHP IS a real job.
    Photo Credit: photostock
  • “What do you do with all your free time?” 4 of 10
    "What do you do with all your free time?"
    Why?: Um, what free time?
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  • “It must be nice to not have to work.” 5 of 10
    "It must be nice to not have to work."
    Why?: Again plays to the assumption that being a SAHP is not enough work.
    Photo Credit: photostock
  • image-281 6 of 10
    Why?: There's usually a lot of financial sacrifice to allow one to be a SAHP.
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  • “I would love to get to take a nap every day.” 7 of 10
    "I would love to get to take a nap every day."
    Why?: Well, I would love that too -- not all SAHP get a nap.
    Photo Credit: photostock
  • “Did you go to college?” 8 of 10
    "Did you go to college?"
    Why?: Assuming that the SAHP is uneducated just because they 'don't work' shows how little you know.
    Photo Credit: photostock
  • “I would be so unfulfilled.” 9 of 10
    "I would be so unfulfilled."
    Why?: Insulting what the SAHP has prioritized in life is not necessary.
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  • “So, you’re just a mom?” 10 of 10
    "So, you're just a mom?"
    Why?: No such thing as 'just' a mom. Being a mom/dad is more amazing then anything.
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:: Tell me — what is something people have said to you? Which is the worst? ::

10 Things You Should Never Say to a Work-From-Home Parent
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