Before my husband and I got married we had the discussion about children. How soon we would like to add them, how many we want and how we would raise them. It was our decision, both of us, that we would like to make it a priority for me to be home with the children until they are in full time school. That made sense for us and we did what we needed to do to make sure that happened for us.
There are many families who have a similar discussion but it doesn’t have the same result. There are many who have the father stay home, or one or the other working part time or there are many who wish to both work. Either for balance and happiness or for financial reason. There should be room to re-evaluate later as well (as we did when I transitioned into a work-at-home parent).
Mommy-wars pin us all against each other. I still don’t understand — and realize I never will — why we have to belittle or question what another family chooses for their dynamics. What bothers me most I think is no one EVER questions what the Father does — whether he works or not. Moms are people too and if they are happier working, that’s important.
Click through for my advice on 10 things you should never say to a working mother:
:: Tell me — what is something people have said to you? Which is the worst? ::
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