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What Working Moms Want You to Know

By Lori Garcia |

Before I officially delve into the heart of this post, allow me to make one thing very clear: All moms are working moms.

I had always been a work-outside-the-home mom, and until four months ago I was a mom who worked a stressful male-dominated corporate job with a hellish commute and two kids in daycare. It was hard; so, so hard. I had my fill of insensitive moms who made me doubt myself and my parenting decisions. I had my moments of bitterness and frustration, but through it all I realized one thing: Moms do what they have to do.

All moms deserve a voice and this post is dedicated to the work-outside-the-home-mamas who have something to say.

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Lori Garcia is a writer and mother of two living and loving in Southern California. When she's not fussing with her bangs, you can find her shaking her groove thing on her personal blog, Mommyfriend where she almost never combines true tales of motherhood and mayhem with her degree in child development. Read bio and latest posts → Read Lori's latest posts →

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16 thoughts on “What Working Moms Want You to Know

  1. Brandy says:

    AMEN!

  2. Lisa says:

    Maybe for some. Certainly not for all.

  3. Cindy says:

    I second that AMEN! Thank you from a WOHM!!

  4. Liza says:

    There is no such thing as “balance” when you are a mom and work out of the home. You do the best you can, shift your priorities constantly and never apologize for wanting it all!

  5. heather says:

    i feel more critisized as a SAHM and sometimes i wish i did work. ill wait till my kids are in school though. most people think SAHMs are lazy.

  6. heather says:

    criticized*

  7. sammy says:

    I wish I could stay home with my daughter! I feel so bad that I have to go to work everyday! If you can stay home, DO IT! I envy it…and so do many other moms who work outside of the home.

  8. MrsK says:

    I don’t want to stay home. My mother worked, her mother worked, her grandmother who had 10 children still managed to work!! No I don’t feel guilty, no I don’t really care about ‘balance’ if the clothes sit in the dryer for 4 days so be it. I also don’t care if you judge me. You aren’t who holds me accountable personally or professionally. I think it is worth noting that since the beginning of time women with children have worked and they always will. And some will stay home and rear their children exclusively. More power to us all.

  9. Charity Kountz says:

    Great post! I’ve been a stay at home mom, a corporate worker, and now a self-employed business owner and consultant. Having done all three, I can honestly say that finding a way to balance family & work is flat out hard, no matter what you’re doing. Parenting is hard. Period. There’s no manual, there’s no off switch, it’s 24/7. It’s also one of the most amazing, wonderful, fulfilling things I’ve ever experienced. But as a human, I thrive on a variety of experiences. I hope both of my girls (11 and 5) grow up to understand what it means to work hard toward a goal and succeed or to work hard and fail but keep going anyway. I can’t imagine anything better to teach my kids about how to make it through life.

  10. Nicole Dash says:

    You are absolutely right, we all work. I do have to say though that as a mother of four and a daycare provider/owner, I dont’t think there is anything wrong in admitting that your daycare provider or nanny had a hand in raising your child. It doesn’t mean you are less of a mother. takes a village to raise a child. Some of the children I care for start at 3 months and stay until kindergarten. Some are with me 10 hours a day, 5 days a week. It absolutely influences the way they are raised. But in the right setting, that is a positive thing. I a

  11. Nicole Dash says:

    Sorry.. I was saying that I applaud all moms regardless if they choose to work outside the home or not.

  12. katie d says:

    interesting…but did not like “it makes me a better mom” comment. i saw it as a slap to SAHM

  13. Sunny says:

    I think it is hard to do both frankly. I had a choice to make because my husband traveled all the time, so I decided to stay at home. I have heard though that moms that work part-time are happiest.

  14. Sarf A says:

    I realize that being a Mom is special. But, PLEASE, being a Dad is just as special.
    I am a Dad.
    Why is there guilt or right/wrong with Moms’ choices? Why is it “natural” for Dads to automatically decide that they will continue their professional lives/work?
    Why is there no debate on whether it is more appropriate for a Dad to work outside of home or stay with the child full-time?
    I wonder when we will mature, as a society, to realize that a child needs and values each parent equally? Are we sure that one (either Mom or Dad) is more “appropriate” to remain at home, full-time with the child … or are we just giving in to tradition?

    An alternate vision for society: I look forward to the day when the majority of parents sit down and decide how both parents will juggle the balance and work out each one’s schedules and tasks? If they feel one needs to stay home with the child/ren full-ime, then they determine, together, who it is. Could they alternate every couple of years? Let’s not throw in the career path threat right off the bat – all that can, and does, change.

    As a society, can we change the question from “WOHM”/”SAHM” to Working-Outside-Home-Parent/Raising-Child-At-Home-Parent?

  15. emily says:

    Working outside the home moms are not better than Stay at home moms nor vice versa. I have gotten snide remarks and jabs at me because I choose to stay home with my little one. That is what we feel is best for OUR family and it’s nobody’s business but our own. I applaud ALL mothers! All good mothers at least.
    PS happy mother’s day

  16. kari says:

    i laugh at the women who say, “i wish i could stay at home with my kids!”. hahahaha!!!!!! take it from a mom to a 3 year old, a 5 month old, and a 2 dogs. i would love to go back to work, and leave my children with a nanny, or a day care. i am losing my mind trying to do it all by myself. my husband works long hours, so i often feel like a single mother, even though i’m not. come spend a day at my house while i sit and the kitchen table and drink my coffee, and surf the internet in peace. act like i’m invisible. after you have dealt with 10+ temper tantrums over EVERYTHING, a crying baby because her sister’s fits are scaring her, and dogs scampering at your feet all day, i’ll bet that you will run away screaming for a break, too. i would have it much easier if we had 2 cars, and could actually get out of the house once in a while, and also if i had a support system. i’m envious of the mother’s that have a village to help raise their kids. i’m stuck in BFE 7 days a week with my only outlet being a computer, and a telephone. it’s all i can do just to keep the dishes and laundry somewhat done, only to have my husband come home at 10 PM, and wonder why the house is not immaculate.

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