I married the first man I kissed.
He was my best friend.
He was my first kiss.
He is my husband and best friend.
He is the father of my children.
Of all of these, my children see the last one on a day to day basis. My husband and I are a great team when it comes to parenting and maintaining our home running smoothly. But the other day, I thought, “You know what? They need to see us kiss more.” Before our third child, we were more playful with each other, kissed, spontaneously slow danced. But when our third one came along, our life changed.
Not so much because our family grew, but more because of other things that came along around the same time. We moved to a bigger house, which means more cleaning (we used to live in a medium sized apartment). My husband’s job changed and my job changed, and add to that mix an adorable little baby boy to snuggle with, change diapers, feed … moms, you know what I am talking about.
When the hubby gets home or leaves the house, the kids see us kiss, but that’s about it. Is that pretty much how it is in your home? So stop what you’re doing and go snuggle with your spouse or hold hands. I know when I was little, my parents were very affectionate with one another. I remember us yelling across the room in disgust, “EWWWWWW!” But as I got older, those were signs to me that my parents cared for each other. Those were the things that reassured me that everything was alright.
Here’s my challenge to myself and to you all: let them see you kiss. Let them see how much you love each other by your affection, love, and commitment to each other.
5 Benefits of Kissing
1. Burn calories. Kissing releases adrenaline which helps burn 2-5 calories per minute. According to LiveStrong.com, “Oxygen consumption is the key to burning calories.”
2. For the kids. So your kids can see firsthand what a healthy marriage looks like.
3. Stress releaser. Kissing releases endorphins, which help put you in a good mood and release stress. According to Laura Berman, Ph.D., an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry, “Kissing relieves stress by creating a sense of connectedness, which releases endorphins, the chemicals that counteract stress and depression.”
4. Keeps cavities at bay. “Kissing increases saliva flow, which can be helpful in removing cavity-causing material from tooth surfaces,” says Dr. Mark Donald, Academy of General Dentistry.
5. And most importantly, it strengthens your relationship and creates incredible intimacy.
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