I was so excited to learn that my friend Maria was expecting her second child. For Latinos, any excuse is a great one to throw a party and get family and friends together, so I was prompt to ask, ¿Cuándo es la fiesta? I wanted to make sure I would not miss the baby shower. To my surprise, my friend was less enthusiastic about the subject than I expected.
She told me the subject of a potential baby shower came up at work because one of her friends, as excited as I was, started giving ideas on themes and things of the sort, to which other female coworkers reacted very negatively. First, I was shocked to hear about some of the comments, and then I felt angry that someone, anyone, would make a pregnant woman feel sad for wanting to celebrate a baby, a new life, a very personal and exciting moment in her life.
Apparently I was naive and have been unaware that many women feel it is tacky to throw a baby shower for any other child but the first one. I personally love parties, so without a doubt I organized a baby shower for my second child, who was born even before my daughter had turned 2, because I felt as excited and eager to celebrate the second addition to my family as I did the first time around.
Going back to my friend Maria … In an effort to help her feel at ease with making any decision she wanted, I started searching for that very question: Is it okay to throw a baby shower for a second, third, forth, or any child after? Well, most of the online forums I found were as vocal and negative as what my friend had experienced at her office.
Of course, having the opportunity of making my case in a platform like this one, I decided I had to give my opinion and the reasons why it is completely okay to celebrate that new life you are bringing to the world. As moms, we always try to be fair and treat our children equally, and most importantly, we give them the same amount of love without thinking who came first or second.
If you are an expecting mom and are doubtful if you should have another baby shower, here are five reasons that will at least make you consider it: