I am the oldest of my siblings and my father’s only daughter. My father was always pretty strict on me especially since I was the first and the only girl in the family. Though he was tough I’ve always had a pretty honest relationship with him. Recently his words stuck with me. He said “A parent always worries.” As a parent, I am learning to understand just what he means by worry. It’s just another lesson from my father
While visiting, I decided to go out with old friends. I’m an adult and I stayed out a little late. I wasn’t worried about the kids. They were home with their grandparents probably asleep and I was out reconnecting. I came home and my father was awake. He said “What happened” I replied “about what” He asked “What time is it?” By that question alone I knew where he was going. I felt like I was 17 years old again and back living at home with mom and dad.
The next morning my mother told me my father was up asking what time I was going to be home. He was wondering who I had gone out with, what I was doing and if I was ok. She told him don’t worry about it she will be home and went back to bed.
I approached my dad and in a jokingly manner said “you know dad, I am an adult now and I am a parent too. There’s no need to wonder if I will be coming home, as much as I want to escape my crazy kids I always come back.” He replied “A parent always worries” He didn’t laugh or even smile. He said “You will see with your own kids, you never stop worrying”
My father might not say it all the time but he cares. He shows me just how much he cares for all of us because he still worries. We can be 50 years old and he will never stop worrying. I make an effort now to let him know my exact whereabouts now because I know he won’t call to ask. Even though I know he worries I hope I can keep him calm so he knows I care too or at least keep him from driving my mom crazy!
What is one lesson you have learned from your dad/parents?
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