Last week, we found out that my husband’s friend had passed away from a sudden heart attack. He was only in his 40’s, and the craziest part was three weeks prior we had gone with him and his wife to the Bahamas. He looked so healthy and happy. He also leaves behind two young children.
The entire week, I couldn’t help but think what I would do if my husband were to pass away. I just couldn’t picture my life without him. I guess it doesn’t help that he’s a firefighter, either. I remember one time he got home from work at 8:10am (he usually gets home at 8am on the dot), and my mind was racing wondering if he was okay. I know God is in control, and I tell myself that all the time. It usually helps me with the worrying.
Do you ever worry about losing your spouse? Is it normal to have these thoughts? Here are a few tips on how to overcome the fear of your spouse passing away and enjoy each other to the max!
Live Life to the Fullest 1 of 6
We hear this over and over again, but it's important to always live your life to its fullest. Really take time to enjoy each day you have with your spouse. Try something new together; perhaps take a dancing class or take up mountain biking.
Have a Plan 2 of 6
Although it's a talk many of us dread (myself included), knowing you have a plan in case something were to happen might ease your mind.
Ask Yourself, "Is this Really Worth Arguing Over?" 3 of 6
As married couples, we all have our arguments, but sometimes we might miss out on things over silly disagreements. Whenever I get in an argument with my husband, I think to myself, "Is this really worth arguing over?" Asking myself this question allows me to realize it really isn't worth fighting over and it's time we won't get back.
Have a Positive Attitude! 4 of 6
There are many studies that show that people who are positive have a lower risk of death than pessimists. So try to stay positive and don't dwell on it.
Kiss Your Spouse Goodbye in the Mornings 5 of 6
My husband leaves to work before I do, and for the past 7 years since we've been married, he never leaves the house without kissing me goodbye. I'll admit, I never did this before, but it's something we have made a tradition at our house. One of the reasons is that I never want to regret not kissing him goodbye if, God forbid, anything happened to him.
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Talk to Someone 6 of 6
Talk to someone you trust about your fears. Sometimes putting your fears out there may help you cope with them. If you feel it's taking up your daily life, it's important to seek professional help.
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