Staying Connected While Parenting From a DistanceRuby Wright
Tomorrow we are off to our 2 month vacation in California. I mentioned before that Dad isn’t coming with us. While I’ve prepared each of the kids carry-ons and have talked to them about our travels to have a smooth trip, explaining to them that dad isn’t coming is one of the hardest things every time. I know how important it is for dad to still parent from a distance. Staying connected is crucial for the kids to have a great time.
This won’t be our first time away from dad. He is a Veteran and served proudly for the U.S. Navy. He even spent time away trucking. It’s during trips back to California or Mexico where we aren’t in our regular environment and routine that the kids can start missing home and dad fast.
This year I do get to tell them that Dad will be flying out to California a week before we leave so that he can fly back home with us. But honestly, to little kids that doesn’t mean much. I have asked the hubs to do a couple of things for us to stay connected during our trip. I realized my kids are as visual as I am. They need to see dad. Technology has allowed us to get very creative to have dad be a part of our vacation time.
Here are the things we plan to do with the kids to keep them connected to dad:
Daily Video Chats 1 of 6Video chats are great when the kids are very cranky dad can help parent as if he were here in real time. They see him and they know he means business.
Phonecall 2 of 6When I'm out the kids miss dad especially in public. I try to keep them entertained but they know dad is just a phone call away. Little Lady is my chatterbox. She requests to speak to dad whenever she seems my phone.
Video Bedtime Stories 3 of 6This is a must before bed. Dad usually helps put kiddos to bed before he goes to work. This year dad will be sending short bedtime story videos to help keep our routine. He's done it before and it was a great hit with the kids.
Pictures with Dad 4 of 6I give the kids as many pictures of them with dad as I can. Little Man has his picture hanging by his bed. When we travel I give them each one to place in their backpacks.
Video Messages 5 of 6When I know dad is unavailable sending a quick message from the kids are perfect. This is also helpful because we are on different time zones.
A keepsake from daddy for the trip 6 of 6The kids already have favorite pals they bring with them but this year daddy is sending them with their own special baby from dad. I hope he sprays a little cologne so that it really reminds them of daddy's hugs.
Have you ever been apart from a loved one? How do you stay connected?
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