When my husband and I first started talking about having kids, I’m not going to lie, but I freaked out a little. I was 28 years old, and for some reason I just had a number in my head–that number was 30. I wanted to be 30 when I had my first child. Yes, I know, I wasn’t too far off. Between the time spent being pregnant, I would have been 29 when my baby was born. But not being 30 made me uneasy. I spent hours searching the internet looking up the topic “what is the right age to have a baby.” It was as though I was looking for an affirmation, an article that would tell me “It’s okay Carmen to have a baby at 29.” I had been married for six years, was financially stable and was settled in my career–what else was I waiting for? I soon learned there really is no right or wrong age to have a baby. Sometimes in fact, you’re never REALLY ready. As a new mom (at the age of 29) I couldn’t be happier. I interviewed six amazing moms, who became moms for the first time ranging from their 20′s, 30′s and 40′s and they share their perspective.
What age did you have your first baby? Leave a comment below.
ps. I also included my story as well!
Lisa Cash Hanson, 41
Why the time was right: I told my husband I wanted a baby for a long time but we never started to try. Suddenly my husband said,"Babe shouldn't we start trying now?" I thought WAIT! I'm not sure I'm ready LOL. But I made the decision to get ready. I have a wonderful husband and I finally realized that not everything had to be perfect. Meaning we didn't have to have every baby toy, her nursery perfect or even be fully prepared. I just trusted that everything would work out. The most unexpected blessing was that everything showed up in perfect time. She had everything she needed and we couldn't have been happier.
Pros: I suppose waiting until I was more settled in life meant that I brought Matilda into the world in a loving home that was stable and she has a great daddy. I'm more mature at 41 than I would have been in my 20's so that brings a little added wisdom to how I raise her. And I'm not as selfish as I was in my earlier years.
Drawbacks: I thought I'd be super patient and so easy going. But I think when you are older you don't have the same carefree attitude that younger moms may have. I guess you would say I'm a hovering parent. Always concerned she may fall or something. Or maybe that's just being a first time mom I'm not sure. Also when you are older you have to deal with the doctors constantly checking you and telling you all the complications that can come with having a baby later in life. Wanting to poke you with needles. I'm a real strong personality so I just told my doctor, "My baby is healthy and you're not putting a needle in me everything is fine." And it was. But who likes to hear all that when you're pregnant? So that was a drawback.