My father’s words of wisdom are few and far between, but very memorable. I recall as a teen rebelling and thinking the worst of my parents. My father’s ways of being strict were the worst in life … or so I thought. As a parent now myself, I have learned to treasure when my father speaks. From jokes to serious talks about life, they’ve all had an impact. I take his words with me, and I can clearly hear him speak whenever I find myself in a situation where I’d turn to him.
Since moving almost 3,000 miles away, I miss the time I had with my dad. I take full advantage of my time visiting, even if it’s just to ride in the car with him to the store. I’ve learned to understand that all he preached was for my good, not to be against me. I make it a point to share how I feel, and he is learning to share more and be open. Still, nothing tops his words of wisdom.
These are a few of my favorite words of wisdom from my father:
Words of Wisdom From My Father 1 of 6
Scroll through the slides to read my favorite words of wisdom from my father.
Keep Trying 2 of 6
My father's famous words are echale ganas. This is his way of saying he's proud, because even when I share amazing news, he knows that my work isn't done. He motivates me. When I share my amazing news, he reminds me that I have to keep trying. He knows how important it is to me to know I've made him proud, so hearing him say echale ganas is just as great for me!
Know Your Worth 3 of 6
Though I'm usually confident and cheerful, I've shed some tears in life. From stressful days in school to sour friendships, my father has seen the tears for all. When I was a kid, he would ask me, "Are going to let someone else control how you feel about yourself?" He would remind me about my self-worth. My father taught me that I am worth more if I believe in myself, and no one can take that away from me. Many times when I questioned myself, my dad was in my head and I would clearly hear No te dejes. Meaning "don't let yourself," these words usually warn against being taken for a fool or be influenced.
Do Not Get Frustrated and Be Patient 4 of 6
This might seem like a given to anyone, but when I became a mother, this is what I needed to hear the most. My father is one of the most patient individuals I know when it comes to kids. It takes a lot to get him over the edge. He has taught me as an adult that even when life seems overwhelming, we must keep calm. Don't let frustration get the best of you. It can be so easy to give up and lose focus of what you need to accomplish. He reminds me be patient, observe the situation, and proceed with patience.
Be Thankful 5 of 6
My father shares that although we work hard for what we want, we must always be thankful. He keeps me humble and reminds me how hard work pays off. He is a constant reminder of what it was like for him growing up and how thankful he is with his life today. Life is to be celebrated, and you should be thankful for everything you have.
Where One Eats, Five Can Eat 6 of 6
Coming from a big family, there is always someone visiting — especially when we visit our home in Mexico. Since I was a child, my father made it a point to share and give what we have. He taught me that you always offer a person something to eat, even if it's the last you have or you think you don't have enough. My parents are givers, and I know how willing to help and share they are. This has made me a better person.
Do you have any favorite words of wisdom from your parents?
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