If you have been following along with me here on Babble you know that I’ve been married before. But thankfully I got my second chance and with that a marriage to a man who loves me with his whole heart. I am in a relationship where the two of us love each other enough – enough to want to work through the challenges that come not just with being married but with life. Because, let’s face it, life although beautiful is anything but easy.
Prior to my first marriage my biggest fear was divorce. I had watched several marriages end in my own family and feared that I would carry on a legacy of failed marriages. Eventually I came to terms with the fact that my biggest fear came to fruition mostly because I realized that what I feared more than divorce was the impact an unhealthy relationship was going to have on my life and my child’s.
My life experiences resulted in me bringing some lessons learned into my next relationship and some baggage too. Fortunately my husband loved me and my child so much that he was willing to help me carry some of the baggage that I carried with me. Over the past few years I have continued to work on me in an effort to be the best mother, wife and self I can be. And along the way, I have had to learn some lessons on marriage because while my mother did the best she could to raise my brother and I as a result of her being a single parent, what we didn’t get was a model of marriage. There was no framework for us to use to say this is how you get through stuff.
Recently I read an article by Your Tango about the top mistakes couples make that could lead to divorce. I found it informative because most married people don’t want to give much thought to the idea of divorce until their marriage is tested. Even so, sometimes increased self awareness can help us be more mindful of our interactions with and responses to our spouses and therefore be more inclined to seek help or support in the event an issue arises.
Here are 10 mistakes, other than infidelity, couples make that can lead to divorce:
Now that you know some of the leading causes for divorce you can take preventative measures in your own relationship or at the very least determine how you and your spouse plan to address any of these challenges should you face them. For those of you who faced these sort of challenges in your marriage, were you able to get through them and if so how?
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