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15 Tips to Help You Be the Best Wedding Guest Ever!

It’s that time of year again. The bridal magazines glisten from their spots on the magazine rack as you wait to checkout in line at the store, sparkly diamonds shine from jewelry store display windows, and glowing brides-to-be, sometimes with groom-to-be in tow, make their way into bakeries for cake tasting.

Ah yes, wedding season is upon us. If it hasn’t already started, before you know it, your mailbox will be sprinkled with save-the-dates, bridal-shower invitations, and wedding invites. For those of you who have already had your big day, you might experience a variety of emotions ranging from excitement for the couple, nostalgia as you relive your wedding day, or relief that you are no longer going through the process of planning your own nuptials. For those of you who have not yet took the plunge you might be thinking about when it will be your turn to head down the aisle or you might be wondering what the heck they are doing.

At any rate, your mission — should you decide to RSVP — is to be the best wedding guest ever. The kind the couple will want to be there beside them even as they celebrate their anniversaries in the years to come. The kind whose thank-you card won’t somehow get “lost” in the mail. Much like so many things, the golden rule applies to weddings too: treat the bride and groom’s wedding the way you would want them to treat yours (or your child’s, when they grow up).

Looking back at my own experience and enlisting some ideas from a few friends who married within the past couple years, here are 15 tips to help you be the best wedding guest ever!

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  • Remember You Are Helping to Create Memories 2 of 16
    Remember You Are Helping to Create Memories
    Your presence is important. You are playing an integral role in the shaping of the memories that will reflect what for some, is the most important day of their life. Allow that to help guide you when deciding how you will carry yourself throughout the wedding ceremony and reception.
  • RSVP 3 of 16
    RSVP
    It is easy to sit the invitation down someplace and forget about it until you get a call from the Maid of Honor asking if you ever received one in the first place, and if you'll be coming. Make an effort to RSVP and, if applicable, indicate your meal preference right away.
  • Don’t Ask to Bring Someone 4 of 16
    Don't Ask to Bring Someone
    In most cases the bride and groom or whoever is footing the bill has to pay per person. Don't put them on the spot by asking if you can bring someone. Even worse, don't show up the day of with an uninvited guest. Unless it clearly indicates you can bring a guest, plan on going solo.
  • Dance 5 of 16
    Dance
    No one cares whether or not you have rhythm. If there is a dance floor, then dance. If you are really self-conscious about your lack of rhythm, move towards the middle of the dance floor so no one can see you that well. But really, help make the reception fun for the couple and the guests by shaking what your mama gave you! Chances are that will be much more fun than sitting at the table staring at your phone or only talking to your spouse (didn't you talk to them the entire car ride to the wedding, anyway?).
  • Prepare Your Kids 6 of 16
    Prepare Your Kids
    For some couples, having children there is an important part of their day; however, not all couples have the ability to have a kid's station or hire someone to care for the children during the ceremony and reception. Help prepare your little ones by ensuring that they are fed and have napped before the ceremony. Having a 6-month-old I am a fan of aisle seats wherever we go — that way, if she starts crying, I can make a quick getaway before we become disruptive. For older children, let them bring a book, video game (that can be silenced), or a coloring book and crayons — something to keep them busy. During the reception, remember they are your children and it is your job to keep an eye on them, not the bride and groom. If something gets damaged they are the ones held responsible. Not to mention, you don't want your little one getting hurt.
  • Be on Time 7 of 16
    Be on Time
    Do your best to be on time, plan for possible traffic delays and do your gift shopping before the day of the wedding. In the event that you are late, sit in the back so that you don't disturb other guests or distract from the wedding.
  • Post With Care 8 of 16
    Post With Care
    So you had fun taking photos with the bride in the photo booth and you got some great ones. In fact, you look really hot in one of them and you decide it would be a great profile pic for Facebook. But if it's not so becoming of the bride, don't post it. While you are at it, don't Instagram it either. Don't you hate when people post horrible photos of you? On the other hand, if you've got some really great photos, why not share them with the happy couple?
  • Shop the Registry 9 of 16
    Shop the Registry
    It is one of life's greatest mysteries. You go through all the trouble of making a gift registry and identifying all the items that you actually need and yet somehow manage to walk away from your wedding with four crystal vases and a ton of other things that you don't need (or truthfully want, despite being appreciative). Also, there's no gift receipt so you're forced to hold onto them. Make an effort to purchase something from the couple's registry and be sure to include the gift receipt. If you can't, then consider giving them cash or a gift card so that they can select something that they need. And be sure your gift clearly indicates who it is from, as sometimes cards get mixed up in the shuffle.
  • Don’t Complain and Don’t Belittle Someones Day 10 of 16
    Don't Complain and Don't Belittle Someones Day
    So the chicken or cake is a little dry. It's hot outside. The DJ's only playing pop music. Here's the thing: it's not your wedding. When it is, you get to decide how things go. Give the couple a break — when it comes down to it, they couldn't control the weather, the exact way the food was cooked, or their great-uncle's crazy dance moves. It's also a good time to avoid gossiping about the bride's exes or how the groom dated every girl on the cheer-leading squad in high school. Your job isn't to critique everything. They invited you as a guest, not a critic. You don't need to know why they did what they did — just relax and enjoy the celebration.
  • Follow the Dress Code 11 of 16
    Follow the Dress Code
    If they take the time to create a dress code, please follow it. Now is not the time to declare the fact that you "have rights." They have rights, too — including the right to turn away anyone who isn't following the rules.
  • Mind Your Manners 12 of 16
    Mind Your Manners
    Be on your best behavior. Silence your cell phones. Food utensils — use them, chew with your mouth closed, and clean up behind yourself. Just because the venue has staff on hand doesn't mean you should make a mess.
  • Be Nice 13 of 16
    Be Nice
    No one likes snooty people. It is very likely you will be sitting with people you don't know. Despite having never met them, chances are you share something in common: a love for the bride and/or groom, for one. Allow that commonality and your desire to be a genuinely nice person to help you. So say hello and mingle.
  • Participate 14 of 16
    Participate
    For some of us, the bouquet toss was/is right about the time we start wishing we had the ability to become invisible. Don't make the bride and groom come get you or call you out on the microphone for the activities they want you to be a part of.
  • Don’t try and be “the life of the party.” Its not your party . 15 of 16
    Don't try and be "the life of the party." Its not your party .
    Don't be that person. The woman who isn't the bride but is dressed in an all white gown, or the one who has clearly had a little too much to drink. While you may like to be the center of attention this is not the time. Don't cause the couple to worry about future events when they see you reaching for a cocktail!
  • Suck it up! 16 of 16
    Suck it up!
    I personally love weddings but regardless this is only a few hours of your day and it means an awfully lot to whoever invited you. Save the complaining or the meltdowns for the car ride home. Put your best face forward and enjoy getting dressed up not having to cook dinner for a change.
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You know that saying — experience is the best teacher? I learned a lot from my experience of being both a guest and the bride. But of course, I didn’t learn everything. So tell me: what did I leave out? Any tips on how you can be the best wedding guest ever?

 

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