Before our BBG triplets were born, my wife and I discussed how awful it would be if we accidentally confused the boys’ identities. What if the one we knew as Sam was really Jack and vice versa? We brainstormed all types of preventative measures including using fingernail polish to denote which boy was which. Luckily, they have always looked so different that there was no need to resort to such measures.
But the concern Caroline and I once faced is nothing compared to the actual nightmare that two moms in Brazil recently endured. In March of 2009, Queila Fagundes and Elaine Oliveira both delivered baby boys in a Goiania hospital. Life was good. Each woman took home her bundle of joy and nurtured him as any proud mama would. But the loving bond Queila and Elaine were creating with their sons would be broken in a process that started with but a single phone call from the hospital. The women were ordered to come in for some tests as part of an investigating into the accidental swapping of two babies.
Elaine wasn’t concerned. She was absolutely certain the DNA test would reveal that David Samuel was her biological little boy. After all, there are some things a mother just knows.
But the mother was wrong. And so was Queila who had possessed a similar certainty that Lucas Daniel was her baby. “They re-did the test four times and each time it came back with the same result, negative. When I saw the results I was in shock, utter shock.”
Suddenly both women realized that the baby boy they had doted on for over a year wasn’t even theirs. In May of 2010, they were both ordered by a court to give up the son they had loved as if he were their very own — the one who in their minds and hearts was just that. It was the most agonizing situation either woman had ever faced.
Queila described her last hours with Lucas Daniel. “It was the longest night of my life. Everywhere I looked everything made me cry. I looked at Lucas Daniel’s photo, his first year album, his pram, a little sock that had been left in the corner, his bottle, his dummy – I thought, ‘God please bring me back my little boy.’
“After everything I went through, I lost the thing I loved the most. I gained a son but at the same time I lost one.”
Queila and Elaine appeared alongside their actual sons on “Outlook,” a daily television show broadcast by BBC World Service. So compelling was their tale that a Brazilian country music duo, Joao Carreiro and Capataz, decided to give it a fairy tale ending. They offered to buy the two families houses near one another. They now live just three streets apart.
“It was an extraordinary thing because I didn’t have a car and Queila lived far away,” Elaine said. “It was going to be so hard for us to be separated from these boys because it was like we’d both lost a son.”
Thanks to the generosity of the musicians, the Fagundes and Oliveiras spend most of their days as one big family, which has made the horrible situation turn out as good as it possibly could have.
Elaine now knows that the right thing was for both mothers to be reunited with their biological sons. Still, she points out that the women had spent over a year bonding with an infant they at one point knew to be theirs. “That kind of love will never end.”
Queila told the BBC that she and Elaine had both always wanted twins. “It turned out that God gave us twins,” she said. “They just had two different mothers.”
Source: BBC News