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20 Things You Shouldn't Do When Planning A Wedding

When it comes to planning your dream wedding, finding Mr. Right is the easy part.

Unless you’re equal parts Martha Stewart, hostage negotiator, and organizational ninja, wedding planning has the capacity to drive brides to the brink of elopement. (It happened to a girl I know; her story involves a drive-thru wedding.)

But for those of you busy planning your special day, congratulations! We here at Babble just love a good wedding. While we anxiously await our invitation in the mail, we offer these 20 wedding planning pitfalls you’ll want to avoid; after the jump!


  • Invite people you don’t like 1 of 20
    Invite people you don't like
    This one's tricky, especially when it comes to family and crappy co-workers. Your wedding day is supposed to be a day that brings you joy. If someone has the power to cast a dark shadow on your wedding day, make the decision that will bring you the greatest peace of mind.
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  • Ignore the groom 2 of 20
    Ignore the groom
    While the wedding might be known as the bride's day, it's also the groom's day too. Include your fiancé as much as he wants to be included. It's never too early to begin practicing lessons in marital compromise.
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  • Plan the wedding and not the marriage 3 of 20
    Plan the wedding and not the marriage
    It's easy to get so caught up in wedding planning that you forget there's a whole lifetime of marriage ahead of you. Discuss children, finances, and future plans with your soon-to-be spouse. Married life shouldn't come as a great surprise.
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  • Become a Bridezilla 4 of 20
    Become a Bridezilla
    Don't let all that bridal attention go to your head. Keep your expectations in check and remember to be nice (even in times of high bridal stress).
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  • Attempt to keep up with the Joneses 5 of 20
    Attempt to keep up with the Joneses
    Stop worrying about what you've seen at other weddings and focus on your own. Weddings aren't about being bigger and better; they are about celebrating your beautiful union. The very best weddings are those where even the guests can feel the love.
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  • Go on a crash diet 6 of 20
    Go on a crash diet
    We get the whole "skinny bride" thing, but for goodness sakes, be smart about it! A crash diet robs your body and mind of what they so desperately need to kick wedding planning ass (Hint: carbs).
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  • Put your friends to work 7 of 20
    Put your friends to work
    Acting as an usher is one thing, expecting your friend to keep drunk Aunt Sissy away from you all night is something else entirely. Your friends have stood by and listened to you blab on about your wedding for 12 long months; let them enjoy the day!
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  • Not ask for help 8 of 20
    Not ask for help
    Work smarter, not harder when it comes to planning your wedding. Delegate responsibilities to your bridal party and family; help them help you!
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  • Formally request monetary gifts 9 of 20
    Formally request monetary gifts
    Even when cash is preferred it's considered poor etiquette to put it in writing. Allow family, friends, and your wedding party to spread the word instead.
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  • Forget everyone else 10 of 20
    Forget everyone else
    While you've been buried under a pile of bridal magazines for the last six months, your friends have been busy hooking up, breaking up, and landing new jobs. Don't forget to share in the happenings of those you love and care for. They've been there for you, be sure you return the favor.
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  • Forget to send thank you cards 11 of 20
    Forget to send thank you cards
    We know you're so busy having newlywed sex that you haven't had time to write thank you notes. No one is asking you to bring stationary on your honeymoon, but be sure to honor your guests with a thank you card. Emily Post suggests thank you notes should be written within three months of receiving the gift.
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  • Trust your music to an amateur 12 of 20
    Trust your music to an amateur
    Music makes or breaks a wedding. Hire a professional DJ or band to be your emcee and all-around party pleaser. No offense to your aspiring DJ cousin.
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  • Not eat on your wedding day 13 of 20
    Not eat on your wedding day
    There's no doubt you'll be busy stressing on your wedding day. All the more reason you need to eat regularly and stay hydrated. You paid way too much for that gorgeous wedding hall to spend your wedding day in the E.R.
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  • Plan without a budget 14 of 20
    Plan without a budget
    Wedding expenses add up fast and if you're not keeping track, you'll be pawning off your wedding gifts to pay down a mountain of debt.
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  • Expect perfection 15 of 20
    Expect perfection
    No one likes a pouty bride. Something will go wrong on your wedding day. If you're lucky it'll be a small thing so expect the unexpected and don't allow anything to ruin your beautiful day.
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  • Compromise on style 16 of 20
    Compromise on style
    You'll be forced to compromise your vision to fit within your budget, but what you don't have to do is compromise on style. Get creative, affordable style can be yours! Image credit: Shutterstock
  • Make careless seating arrangements 17 of 20
    Make careless seating arrangements
    Enlist the help of the family gossip when planning your seating arrangements. Their insider knowledge will serve as an invaluable resource in helping to avoid unnecessary drama.
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  • Do something you’ll regret 18 of 20
    Do something you'll regret
    We know you're a nice girl who love-love-loves her fiancé. We also know you've had way too much to drink and think the limo driver is hot. Stay with your girls and be good; a drunk decision is never a good decision.
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  • Be indecisive 19 of 20
    Be indecisive
    Depending on the length of your engagement, you may not have the luxury of indecision. Event halls book up quickly, wedding dresses need to be ordered, and on and on. If you're feeling indecisive or lazy, hire a wedding planner.
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  • Include registry information on your invitation 20 of 20
    Include registry information on your invitation
    Registry information on your invitation or save-the-date card is considered impolite, as it implies you're asking for a gift. Instead, include wedding registry information on your wedding website and have family, friends, and the bridal party pass the information along.
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