5 Mom Debates That Will Never Be Settled. Ever.
Can we ever agree to disagree, or will the fighting continue?
Opinions are like moms. Everyone has one. And every mom has an opinion.
In fact, you won’t have to look far (the mirror, perhaps?) to find a mom with a very strong opinion on a variety of parenting topics. Perhaps the one thing we can all agree on, however, is that we’ll never agree on many of these things.
Take a glance at the arguments that will likely never be settled, no matter how right you just know you are on the issue:
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This is the ultimate Babble post! It ticks off all of the most controversial parenting topics, with nothing new to add, IN THE FORM OF A SLIDESHOW! It’s the meta-Babble. I salute you.
You forgot circumcision and abortion
Ha! Yes, Goddess! Ha Diera! The “meta-Babble”…love it…I am just glad they tagged the small icon images with text so I could see the topics without having to actually click through the horrible slide-show format.
Teaching children manners shouldn’t be optional, I don’t understand how that got into the list. Even as adults, sometimes we say “Hello”, “Nice to meet you”, “Thank you”, etc. etc. etc. even when we don’t mean it! Politeness is a necessary social skill. Where will children learn it if not from their parents?
The fact that basic social behavior is being considered optional is very disturbing to me. The current generation is being raised with a lack of consideration for others and a sense of entitlement. Research studies support this. A child raised w/o appropriate social skills will become an adult who is more likely to be unhappy and have poor personal relationships. This is a no brainer.
Sheri Noga, MA
Author of “Have the Guts to Do it Right: Raising Grateful and Responsible Children in an Era of Indulgence”
http://www.grateful-child.com
oh…and pumping *is* breastfeeding…
@Goddess — Ah, yes. Circumcision would have been a good one to add to the list.
No cry it out vs. cosleeping?
Good list. Though, there really is no vaccine debate now that we know the truth. Or is there? I gues some people would still be worried. Also, you forgot circumcision, that’s a biggie.
Can we all agree at least that we hate these &^&%^&$&^ slideshows? :/
No need to add circumcision — the genital cutting will absolutely be settled in America, just like it has in the vast majority of the world, where they have decided it doesn’t make sense to cut off important parts of the genitals of non-consenting children.
Manners is a hot button issue? I agree on circumcision and sleep.training being added to the mix.
@Linda an occassional one wouldn’t be too bad, but they apparently need to meet a quota. My favorite useless slide show was the “top ten states” of something or other… and the slide show was litterally a list of the states with an image… of map it each state.
Death to the slideshow. Totally uncool way to increase clicks. As for the list. No on thinks manners is bad or gets all that worked up. Cosleeping is way more hot button.
how is circumcision even a debate? come here, let me cut off your clitoral hood with no anesthesia..u will look better and it wont hurt that bad. yeah, didnt think so. thats not a debate. its WRONG and will soon be illegal thank god. save the baby boys!
Barefoot, I don’t completely understand your comment… How will it be “settled” in America and what do you mean like it has in the vast majority of the world? Also, circumcision was originally a religious thing and then was thought to reduce chances of infections in newborns, that is why it was mostly done, it has just become something people do nowadays. It does help reduce the chances of infection in newborns, but to be honest, there isn’t really that much chance of them getting infections with it still on. A lot of parents also get their boys circumcised as babies to avoid embarrassment in the future. Kids and even adults can be cruel sometimes.
What? What? Who argues daycare isn’t necessary? The need for childcare laws to make daycare safer, now there is an argument.
Co-sleeping is a much hotter suject than manners. Another touchy subject is vaginal vs c-section. That gets people all worked up, lol!!!!
Ahhh, lets debate in the comments what issue is more debatable! Give it a rest! And give other mother’s a break for their decisions even if they are different from yours. That’s exactly the point of this article.
K – I agree with you. So many of these comments are “that is isnt a debate because my side is just right!” That is the exact point of the article, that these issues will never be settled because people are too entrenched on either side. I will point out a few inaccuracies – pumping is breastfeeding and that it is my understanding that the major study stating that “vaccines are bad” was shown to be a fallacy, so to describe it as “some studies on one side, some on the other” is grossly mis-stating the reality. Its a debate but not a scientific debate, more personal opinion based nowadays.
Agreed, this is the most over-simplified, worst slideshow ever. It not only added nothing to my day, it actually took something (2 minutes of precious relax time while the kiddos are asleep!) And I was also surprised to see manners on the list as opposed to cosleeping vs. cio. I think maybe an article on how to be more compassionate towards each other as mothers would have been nice. I feel really strongly (as I know we all do) about the way that I am raising my children. However, I also know that *most* all of us are trying our very best to raise our children with as much love and care as possible. I had such a hard time breastfeeding with my first child that I cried every day. We finally had success after a month and she nursed for 18 months, but I know a lot of moms that weren’t as lucky. No one needs to be told they aren’t good enough when they are trying so hard! As far as circumcision goes, I’m not a huge fan but we did it because my husband had to be circumcised at 9 months when he developed a problem and my son had the exact same skin growth and would have had problems later as well. Let’s be kinder to each other, and offer support instead of judgement.
Uh, the non-vaccinnating people don’t actually have studies to back up their idea. They have studies that say other things, which they corral into service to support their fears.
I am in favor of parents making their choices, not the government. But I am also in favor of accurate information. Do not continue to spread the myths about vaccines. Just because some will not be convinced does not mean they have a leg to stand on.
Hats, Letting kids run around in just diapers, Religion, Tv all left out……