Every month my husband and his friends get together for a “guys’ night.” Much like I can count on the sun rising and setting each day; I can count on guys’ night. Each month I find myself having mixed emotions regarding his excitement as well as commitment to this time with his friends. He and the guys plan an outing and end up getting together and going out while us wives stay at home caring for our children.
A part of me is happy for him. He loves being with his friends and often comes home in the best mood; not to mention I can always convince him to stop and bring me a treat on the way home. Then there’s the other part of me; the part that is annoyed that we seem to differ on what is a reasonable time for him to return home. I also get slightly jealous because I wish my friends and I were better about pulling ourselves away at least for a little bit and scheduling our time to get together. Even more so, I wish my husband was just as excited to spend time with me as he is to hang out with his friends.
Recently I asked several men why they feel that they “need” to have guys’ night out. I wondered why hanging out with their families or as couples didn’t result in the same level of excitement and anticipation as guys’ night did. They were all quite candid in their responses with the exception of my husband. He was quiet. Perhaps he felt it was in his best interest not to respond.
Several of the men that I received feedback from have requested not to have their identities revealed. They realize that after their wife reads this post they might be in for a long night or their answers may come back to haunt them later. At any rate, see what they had to say about going out with just the guys after the jump!
“Guys need time to just be guys.” 1 of 6Guys want to be able to be their complete selves and believe that they can't do that around us. They have to think twice when it comes to what they say. After all, we wives do not forget. They "don't want to get in trouble" or "start anything."
“Time to get away from being conservative husbands/fathers to just being men.” 2 of 6They want to hang out minus the "filters." They don't want to do anything to compromise their marriages but they do want to be able to just hang out for a little while and not have to worry about their spouse or children.
“Because we need to be around some testosterone.” 3 of 6They think we ladies are too sensitive and report having to "hold back" when speaking to us. "In your cases truth does not set you free," they say. Instead, they feel telling us the truth about how they feel often results in us becoming angry at them.
“We just need to get away like the airline commercial.” 4 of 6They need a break and at times end up feeling like a "caged animal." They work all week, deal with difficult people outside of the home, and then come home and "have to deal with" their children and their wives' emotions, which they report "change like the weather."
“We compromise so much so that you are happy (happy wife, happy life).” 5 of 6They report wanting the same happiness they believe we have as a result of them always compromising to please us. Apparently, guys' night gives it to them.
“It’s also a brotherhood.” 6 of 6For them their friends are like family. Hanging out is important to them and therefore they make it a priority even if it is just getting together one day here and there.
Special thanks to Aaron, Michael, and the rest of you guys, who shall remain nameless, who shared your perspective on guys’ night.
What are your thoughts ladies? Does your significant other go out with friends and leave you behind?
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