It’s no secret that at six weeks postpartum I’m still not quite feeling like I’m ready to do the deed. If you have a little one of your own at home chances are you might not be ready either and that’s ok. Based on the candid and honest responses from readers who shared their own stories and offered a little of their advice on my postpartum post, it turns out, I’m actually quite normal which means if you are feeling anything like I am you are too. So relax, give yourself a break, and remind your lover that patience is a virtue. Check out six signs that you may not be quite ready to have sex post pregnancy after the jump.
You tell your spouse not to kiss you or touch your butt in front of the baby because she can see them.
Babies probably aren’t taking mental notes of your love life at this point plus they are too young to say “Ewww” when you and your spouse do engage in a little PDA. But don’t worry, the ewwws will come. Keep in mind, as your little one gets older, that our children often look to us parents for insight as to what is and isn’t appropriate behavior. Amy McCready, of TODAYMoms
and the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, suggests showing a little affection in front of the children as it helps them to get an idea of what a healthy relationship looks like. Seeing their parent’s love and respect for each other also makes them feel a little more secure. Save the sexual behavior; however, for closed doors. McCready notes that children take their “relationship cues” from us parents; therefore, we shouldn’t be doing anything we wouldn’t want to see them do with someone they are dating.
So lean over and give your lover a kiss, rub their back. If there is a new baby in the home, it is likely you haven’t done that since their arrival but do save the groping for later.
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More from Krishann on Strollerderby:
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