When mom bloggers meet up in person at conferences, it’s one of the few times we get full support for the path we’ve chosen professionally. Too often our real world friends and acquaintances either don’t understand what we do or why we do it – not to mention that large segment of the world that thinks that what we are doing is stupid, dangerous, or even possibly harmful.
It can be frustrating to have our hard work so easily dismissed. I asked a bunch of friends what were the most common annoying things they hear. Do they sound familiar?
Everyone asks the money question. It comes in various forms: “How can you make money?” “You can make money doing that?” “Who pays for that?” The answer is LOTS OF FOLKS, MOFO.
2. JUST A MOM BLOGGER.
Yep, we hear this one all the time, and Kelby reminded me today (Kelby is a blogger, entrepreneur, journalist, and conference organizer, so “just” anything my ass). My favorite version of this came from my friend Robin: ”So, now that all the kids are in school full time, are you looking for a real job?” Answer: NO. Now I can actually get my work DONE.
3. THE NARCISSIST ANGLE.
Haven’t you heard? Bloggers are all narcissists! My response is: DUH. It’s usually framed less directly: “You mean, you just write about your life? And people read it?” or ”You really think you have that much to say?” or “You think your life is that interesting?”
4. I DON’T GET IT.
There’s a whole population of folks that don’t understand what bloggers do, nor do they care. A great example from Melanie: “We’d ask what you’re doing, but none of us understand it anyway. Let’s just talk about something else.” Or tying into #1 from Rajean: “Ok, sure, but what else do you do, because that’s just for fun, right? Like, you’re not paid to do that, so what’s your day job.”
5. EXPLOITING OUR CHILDREN.
Because we blog about our lives as mothers, it seems to be just a skip over to exploitation in a lot of folk’s eyes – particularly if you share photos of your children. I wonder if anyone asked A.A. Milne if he was exploiting his son when he wrote Winnie the Pooh (the original drawings are based on his son too)?
6. FREE STUFF.
My friend Christine told me, “I had one “friend” ask me if I spent any of my own money on Christmas gifts last year or if i got them all for free. The nerve!” The other variation of this one comes in the #7 spot…
7. HOW CAN I BE A BLOGGER?
Once they hear you “make money hanging out in your pajamas in front of the computer”, the very next question is about how they can get in on the action. “OOOoo I want to blog so I can get free stuff, too! Can you help me?” was recently said to Clarissa. Leticia always gets, “So how do I get laptops/phones/video games to review too?” The best response come from Dwan: “I just laugh and say ‘I’ve been doing this over four years, it took practice.”
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