Well here’s a paragraph that sets fatherhood involvement back a few generations. In an article in the Times of London purporting to let wives in on the “secret lives” of their husbands — one of those gossipy little vacant pieces of crap that will surely wind up with a book deal and a movie — the author talks to a fund manager, who rightly agreed to print only his first name and admits he just doesn’t have the motivation, time or energy to be an everyday dad.
“I think every dad knows this: work is your friend,” says Simon, 49, a fund manager. “It’s about the only weapon men have got left in these days where husbands and wives are supposed to share all the chores equally. Because of my job I have to work pretty hard. But not nearly as hard as my wife thinks I work. Weekends especially. And it’s not that I don’t love my kids; I adore them more than anything. It’s just that I like them to see me at my best, when I’m doing fun stuff with them, rather than worn down with tedious ferrying duties: recorder concerts, ballet classes, that kind of thing.”
Look, I get it. Parenting is a bore. There are a lot of mundane, tedious things we have to put up with. But is this a secret? And do dads really just want to be there for the “fun stuff”? I wish life were all cake and ice cream, too. But what kind of parent are you if you slip away for the everyday stuff — life — only to show up for the fun stuff? Well, you’re not one. You’re a circus clown, hired to put on a smile and then take off after the party. What a loser.
– Mike @ Cry It Out!