I dealt with secondary infertility for a long time, and I spent a lot of that time really angry that my kids were going to be so far apart. One “friend” even commented “Why even try to get pregnant again? It would just be like trying to replace your other one.” o_O Once Vivi finally got here, I knew exactly why I had to wait 6.5 years for her — Addie. I’m sure Addie would have been an amazing sister no matter when she became one, but something mighty special happened when these two met for the first time.
Watching these two girls together has been the the greatest source of joy in my entire life. I know in talking to friends that the love Vivi and Addie have for each other is a little more unique than a lot of sibling relationships and the 6.5 year age gap is the biggest determining factor in the difference. There are some negatives to having your only two kids be this far apart, but the benefits FAR outweigh any of the inconveniences when you see them together.
One of the greatest things I hear from women dealing with secondary infertility is that my girls give them hope that not only will they survive a big age gap, but that it may be the very best thing that ever happened to their family. If I could go back and have a do-over, choosing when I got pregnant (HA!), or if I were to get pregnant again (which, nope), I would want another 6 year age gap, at least.
Here’s a few of the benefits and reasons I’m glad my kids are 6 years apart:
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