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Boyfriend Takes Out A Billboard To Protest His Ex's Abortion

By Danielle Sullivan |

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Many pro-choice women feel that abortion is a personal decision that a woman makes regarding her body. Some even feel that a man has no say in the decision to abort since it is the women’s body that is affected by the pregnancy. Some women are less inclined to cut the man entirely out of the decision.  Similarly, men have different views on it that run the gamut. One New Mexico man took news of his ex-girlfriend’s abortion to an extreme, and attempted to publicly humiliate her.

In anger over his girlfriend’s abortion, Greg Fultz took out a billboard displaying a picture of him holding the outline of an infant. The billboard read: “This Would Have Been A Picture Of My 2-Month Old Baby If The Mother Had Decided To Not KILL Our Child!”

Friends of the woman, Nani Lawrence, claim she had a miscarriage, not an abortion.

The controversial billboard has touched off a court battle over free speech and privacy rights. Lawrence is suing Fultz for harassment and violation of privacy. A court official has also recommended having the billboard removed. Fultz’s attorney claims that’s a free speech violation.

Even the pro-life group that initially backed the billboard, Right to Life New Mexico is now requesting to have its name removed from the sign. The $13,000 billboard was paid for by Fultz and through donations. If the sign is not ordered to be removed by the court, it will stay up for three months.

Fultz says he has every right to a say in the pregnancy:

“It’s my belief that fathers should have a say regarding pregnancy. Women have all the power when it comes to pregnancy. The men get no say when a woman wants to go and have an abortion without the say of the father.”

What’s astounding is that Fultz himself says he is not completely sure the fetus was aborted: “If it was abortion, then my purpose is to try to prevent this from happening to someone else.”

More On Abortion Rights In The News: Idaho Mom May Face Jail For Self-Induced Late Term Abortion

 

 

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49 thoughts on “Boyfriend Takes Out A Billboard To Protest His Ex's Abortion

  1. Gagagolly says:

    If the guy on the billboard is really the father, I wouldn’t want to be saddled with dealing with him the rest of my kid’s life, either (I wouldn’t have done the deed with that guy to begin with, though…)

  2. Anonimom says:

    And yet if the child had been born he would not have had a choice but to pay child support. When it comes to the question of “choice,” the fathers are screwed either way.

  3. bob says:

    “This would have been a picture of my two-month old baby”, but instead he’s cradling a blacked-out rutabaga and acting like a prick. Sure won my sympathy.

  4. erica says:

    Good, men should have at least an input and people need to stop using abortion as birth control because a baby didn’t ask to be born. They are a blessing.

  5. Akemo says:

    IF it was aborted? Don’t ya think a little fact checking would’ve been in order? I’m pro-choice but I do think that ethically a woman should consult the father. Notice I don’t say legally. I think you get into too many grey areas for the law to get involved. Don’t think I’d want to be responsible for foisting this A-Hole’s genes on the world tho.

  6. LogicalMama says:

    it should be “…decided not to kill….” not “….decided to not kill….” I agree with everyone above except for Erica- I don’t think most women use abortion as birth control and I do believe that most women are very thoughtful about the process before they make their final decision. At least the women that I know who have, thought long and hard. Thankfully, I’ve never had to make that decision, not sure if I could, but having the choice to do so necessary.

  7. goddess says:

    I’m as pro choice as they come, but he does have a right to free speech. That said, he has NO right to any part of the decision making process until it is HIS body that must undergo and assume the short and long term risks associated with either continued gestation and childbirth or abortion. Not his body? Life? Risks? NOT his choice. Period.
    @ anonimom- every parent is responsible for child support. And once the man places his sperm inside of the woman’s vagina, he has lost his rights to make choices that regard its by -products. Termination of parental responsibilities and rights CANNOT be made before parenthood is achieved at birth. In any case, it’s the rights held by the child- not the women, that are in dispute. So you’d have to have a child advocate, and I can’t see how a child advocate is going to be agreeable to a termination of support for said child.

  8. yessss says:

    the fathers aren’t always screwed. and gagagolly, that was a really shallow thing for you to say. you don’t know that guy…and obviously you’re to low of a person to have a little compassion(every cept erica) to realize that this guy is obviously heart broken that this girl(who i wont degrade simply cause i don’t know thier situation) took his child away from him. and he can’t even be lucky enough to get joint custody and have to pay some child support(like any MAN who loves his children should do if need be) instead, he will never even get to see his little boy/girl. and that is truly heart breaking. I’m halfway through my first pregnancy and couldn’t even fathom having an abortion, especially without the fathers approval!

  9. Alicia says:

    There is no 100% effective birth control Erica. Mistakes happen, and if a woman doesn’t want a pregnancy, she doesn’t have to have it. Children are a blessing, to those that want them. But if a child isn’t wanted and then abused or neglected, what type of blessing is that for the child?

    About the billboard, what a jerk. Yes, guys do have a right to say if they would like a child to be born or not, but the fact remains that nature made women the carriers of the pregnancy, so more responsibility lies with her, and more of the decision. When pregnancies can be carried outside of the uterus, then there will be more equality in the decision, but until then, men have very little control over a woman being pregnant or not. Don’t blame women, blame Mother Nature.
    The worse part though is that this jerk doesn’t even know if there was an abortion. He’s simply assuming and bent on being an ass towards his ex. I would bet that this is more about him being butt hurt over splitting up with her than anything else. And at this point I wouldn’t blame the woman for not wanting to be connected to this man in any way!

  10. Alicia says:

    There is no 100% effective birth control Erica. Mistakes happen, and if a woman doesn’t want a pregnancy, she doesn’t have to have it. Children are a blessing, to those that want them. But if a child isn’t wanted and then abused or neglected, what type of blessing is that for the child?

    About the billboard, what a jerk. Yes, guys do have a right to say if they would like a child to be born or not, but the fact remains that nature made women the carriers of the pregnancy, so more responsibility lies with her, and more of the decision. When pregnancies can be carried outside of the uterus, then there will be more equality in the decision, but until then, men have very little control over a woman being pregnant or not. Don’t blame women, blame Mother Nature.
    The worse part though is that this jerk doesn’t even know if there was an abortion. He’s simply assuming and bent on being a jerk towards his ex. I would bet that this is more about him being butt hurt over splitting up with her than anything else. And at this point I wouldn’t blame the woman for not wanting to be connected to this man in any way!

  11. Bunnytwenty says:

    “…this guy is obviously heart broken that this girl(who i wont degrade simply cause i don’t know thier situation) took his child away from him.”

    Oh, for crying out loud – he doesn’t even know if it was a miscarriage or not. Should he take out a billboard to yell at his ex’s body for being too evil to carry to term? Also, “his” child? what, is it not hers? Does he own her body, since she was unfortunate enough to be inseminated by him?
    I feel zero sympathy for this guy, and she made the right choice getting the heck away from this controlling jerk. This is abusive, humiliating behavior, and I can’t imagine that being his girlfriend was any picnic – it’s a good thing that no innocent child was born to a twisted person like this.

  12. tymothye says:

    from what i can see in the billboard picture, if it represents the true and accurate depiction of the billboard, is a picture of him and an outline of a baby. so whos privacy are we talking about protecting? i dont see the girls name or picture..i do see an outline of a baby that was killed. maybe we should be more worried about protecting the babies. if that baby was alive the billboard wouldnt exist. i do understand this is a touchy subject generally split down the lines of liberal and conservative. that being said, i am not a great speaker or a perfect speller and i do mess up my grammar. other than the fact i know i have not capitalized anything i do not need the liberals jump on me for other mistakes like yall generally do when you dont have an argument. also since this article is not about race please dont run to your other attack mode and call me racist. debate the facts of the billboard. free speech or not? who’s privacy is hurt here? out of the 3 humans the billboard is allegedly about which 2 are still alive and well?

  13. Mistress_Scorpio says:

    Someone should put up a billboard declaring his genetic material is defective and he’s lacking as a partner in the sack.

  14. Kathey says:

    Sorry but having a baby is COMPLETELY the WOMAN’S choice! SHE is the one that has to care for that child !SHE has to go through 9 months of pregnancy! SHE is the one that has to push that baby out!! SHE is the one that has to take care of the child if and or when the so called father decides to leave for someone else or decides he is not ready to have a child.When men can do that then they have the right to talk, until then they need to shut their mouth! What if the woman was raped? Be it by a stranger or a spouse and yes it does happen! Who would want to have a child from that experience? I do not think that abortion should be a form of birth control, but if the women is not ready or she thinks that the father is not ready to step up to help then it is clearly her choice if she wants to go through with a pregnancy!! He’s hurt so what! This woman obviously called him out and knew what he was about and decided the world would be better off without his offspring! A Man has NO right to tell a woman to have a child or Not!

  15. goddess says:

    ITA with the above 3 posts.

  16. Linda,T.O.O. says:

    Yeah, because this is the sort of of guy every woman should want to have baby with… :/ Asshole.

  17. Angela says:

    I know women who had abortions even though they desperately wanted a baby because they were trying to escape from an abusive relationship. I shudder to think what would happen if we passed laws to give abusive men even more power over their partners. I do feel sympathy for men who get no say over the fate of their unborn children but just don’t see a better solution. Ideally the couple would have a mature discussion and come to a solution that both can live with, but this isn’t always possible. In that case someone needs to have the ultimate power to make the decision and the woman is the obvious choice since it’s her body.

  18. anniet says:

    Sick. Sick, sick, sick.

  19. KBeach says:

    I think the problem here is definitely with the man’s A.) ability to deal with a let-down B.) self-confidence and C.) his SANITY.
    C’mon, he’s obviously scorned. . . but we ALL have to learn to deal with it in a healthy way. He needs to seek counseling. I have been dumped in the past in a very nasty manner, I was hurt, but I dealt with it……

    And secondly, what about the advertising company? This would seriously make me contact the Better Business Bureau. Why would they even allow this to go up on one of their billboards? Totally a question of ethical business practice!

  20. kp says:

    I do think fathers should have say regarding abortion. But there’s no way this billboard is going to prevent anyone from having one, nor will it bring back this guy’s possibly miscarried baby. And seriously, if the girl had a miscarriage, she REALLY doesn’t need this kind of a reminder! Forget Fultz; I fell for the woman he’s “punishing.”

  21. Jake says:

    Kathy it is always the woman’s choice until they need someone to pay for everything right. If you weren’t such a man hater you would realize that it takes two to make a baby. Women don’t have to let a man ejaculate inside them. Apparently this woman was to stupid or lazy to take birth control so killing the baby was easier. I do believe people should have the right to abort when both sides agree.

  22. goddess says:

    So- you have a pregnant woman. The person born into a body and the one who will live and die in that body. She is the one who must bear the risks and ramifications of either pregnancy and childbirth or abortion.
    The woman want to abort and the man who impregnated her body does not want her to abort. Obviously 2 people cannot have their choice in this case. To whom do you give the decision? The person whose body it is- or the man who can walk away and never absorb one tiny little inherent risk of that decision. AND- unless my husband signs papers, he cannot have ANY access whatsoever to any of my medical records or discuss my care with my doctor under HIPAA. To have any voice in a woman’s pregnancy would probably violate her rights to privacy under HIPAA.
    That said, I’d hope any couple in a long term relationship would be able to discuss this. But the choice is always the woman’s.

  23. Jennifer H. says:

    Frankly, this is why you have these discussions BEFORE sex. I have no sympathy for anyone who doesn’t outline this crap and protect themselves before going through with sex. No birth control is 100% if you’re having sex, so you best be having some discussions before you get to that point.

  24. Bunnytwenty says:

    “Apparently this woman was to stupid or lazy to take birth control so killing the baby was easier.”
    You do realize that you may be saying this about a woman who had a miscarriage, right? Real sensitive, buddy.

  25. Tara Lindis says:

    If this guy really wants a baby, then he can have one – he just may actually want to have a conversation with a woman BEFORE sex that is something along the lines of, “Hey, I really want a child. Are you interested in that?” instead acting like a victim. It’s her choice in the end – and few things are worse for a baby to be born to a mother that didn’t want a baby. But if there was no discussion about the possible repercussions before hooking up, then its his own fault.

    NOT TO MENTION – if he does really want a baby, that $13,000 could go a long way in the adoption process.

  26. Amber says:

    This billboard is super helpful. It lets every woman who sees it know exactly who NOT to have sex with. I wouldn’t touch this guy with a 10 foot pole.

  27. Kim says:

    I had a good friend whose ex-girlfriend aborted the baby before she even told him she was pregnant, and that was so upsetting for him. I didn’t think it was fair at the time, and I don’t think it’s fair now. I don’t think a billboard is going to solve any problems, but I do think the legal rights of fathers should be considered. I think the whole mindset of “only the woman should have any say” is a bit of a selfish one.

  28. Keri says:

    so funny, u say there is NO 100% efective birth control?!?!?! EVER HEAR OF ABSTINENCE????????? Guess not.

  29. goddess says:

    @Jake- my right to choose abortion will never be contingent on the approval/permission/agreement of any other person save the medical care professional I have chosen to provide my care. In TOTAL privacy. And unless I sign that paper giving them permission to talk to anyone else, no one else need even KNOW about it. Not even a spouse.
    Before you retort, keep in mind you are talking to a woman who has been pregnant willingly and purposefully and with the full knowledge and participation of my husband six times- and had all but the 2 that were miscarried. Never had an abortion, nor considered one. But I’ll fight with my last breathe to defend the right of each and every woman to have choice and access to her own health care.

  30. goddess says:

    What legal rights does anyone else have over another woman’;s body, health and life? Not to mention at the cost of her privacy. None whatsoever. To subrogate her rights reduces her standing as an adult US citizen beneath any others.
    I know one thing- my uterus is never going to be up for any debate, nor its contents.

  31. Gagagolly says:

    @YESSSS, he is fat and greasy looking as far as I can tell, and the billboard is a douchey move…I don’t have to be nice.

  32. goddess says:

    @yessssss: Oh how heartbroken he is @@:
    “The original billboard had two endorsements that have since been removed. The first was from N.A.N.I., an organization Fultz created for pro-life issues that stands for National Association for Needed Information. The acronym also happens to be his ex-girlfriend’s first name. After a few weeks, Fultz removed N.A.N.I. due to the controversy distracting people from the intended message, he says. ”
    http://abcnews.go.com/US/abortion-billboard-lands-mexico-man-court-girlfriend/story?id=13783668
    He USED her for a cause in which he has NO business supporting., When HE grows a uterus, I will defend his rights. Until then he- and you- need to sit down and STFU. My uterus and every other woman’s uterus is NONE of your business.

  33. sarah says:

    Whether she had an abortion or not is not the issue people should be worried about in this case. Whether or not abortion is good, bad, or indifferent is not the issue in this case. A person posted another person’s very personal medical information on a BILLBOARD. I’m not sure how anyone would think that was OK. What’s next? Paying for a billboard that says so-and-so has cancer? AIDS? Herpes? IBS? Hemorrhoids? That they’re pregnant? Dying? Have a really small dick? Have a very loose vagina? What HE did in this instance was beyond wrong, a violation of her privacy, and completely separate from anything she may or MAY NOT have done. However mad someone may be at an ex, there is no excuse for doing that to someone, and I hope he pays for it and then some.

  34. emily says:

    @ alicia. You say there is no 100% type of birth control and so if a woman who doesn’t want kids gets pregnant abortion is better than that child being abuses or neglected….
    Question for you?? Have you ever heard of abstinence?
    I’m sure you have. I am 99.99% pro life. And I feel if you KNOW you do not want kids, KEEP YOUR PANTS ON.
    If you need some sort of sex but are absolutely sure you do not want kids buy a dildo. Take responsibility. Women use abortion as a easy way out. And MANY regret it after.

  35. lam says:

    @Emily, @Jake, et al – Use your brain, plenty of people who want kids end up choosing an abortion. People whose fetus is growing with its brain outside of its skull for example. Or people whose fetus is already dying of a terrible and painful condition. There are many reasons a woman or a couple may choose to abort. Failing to use birth control is only one of them.
    @Goddess – “When HE grows a uterus, I will defend his rights. Until then he- and you- need to sit down and STFU. My uterus and every other woman’s uterus is NONE of your business.” LOVE this!

  36. goddess says:

    @Sarah- if you’ve told the person about a medical condition, legally you cannot sue them for disclosure.
    @Emily: the are many reasons people have sex, and after 6 pregnancies, 4 kids via c section, 2 miscarriages- I have it for every reason BUT procreation now. And my spiritually held beliefs preclude me FROM celibacy. Abstinence is pretty much not compatible, LOL. So, no TYVM, I will NOT be keeping my shorts -or skirts- on. And if my chosen form of birth control fails and I am one of the 6 women in a thousand who become pregnant, I will choose to terminate as IS my right and NONE of your pro-life business.
    Your beliefs as they concern reproductive health care only extend to your own uterus, ovaries and vagina. Not mine.

  37. Kristi Berge says:

    ABORTION IS MURDER, PLAIN AND SIMPLE

  38. heather says:

    where does it say if her name???? really? He’s just trying to say that the father should have more say. maybe she didnt want the baby, but if she did decide to abort it, why not give the father the chance to raise it? it just comes down to money.

  39. Vanessa says:

    What a weirdo…

  40. merris says:

    What makes me sick is he isn’t even sure if the chick did get an abortion… really? ! So, you’re mad that she is no longer pregnant and it could have very well been a miscarriage.
    Its emotionally taxing enough to miscarry but for the douche bag (who I really hope was just a one timer) to put ON A BILLBOARD that it was her choice… regardless of whether or not she was happy about it… it makes my stomach turn.

  41. Erin says:

    Wow! That’s great! Men can’t anything about the choice the woman makes about their child, but if she has the kid and leaves him he better darn well pay for it!? Bass akwards world we live in! It took two to make it happen regardless.

  42. Dy-Anne says:

    If an alleged father can make a woman maintain a pregnancy then it stands to reason an alleged father would also have the right to make a woman terminate.
    Also if that alleged father makes a woman maintain a pregnancy shouldn’t he then be required to maintain his alleged child? Start paying support right away? Being pregnant isn’t free. Also could then the courts require him to take custody of said child if the mother didn’t want it? Or does he get to block an abortion but the leave the nest?
    Men should not be making these decisions for women because there is no way to 100% guarantee they will follow through with the obligations they have helped created and di not want to terminate.

  43. Amy says:

    Imperfect use is factored in to the failure rate of every form of contraception. With that in mind, abstinence is probably the least effective method there is.

  44. Pauline says:

    What a creepy nut! Thank God this guy is an ex. They would have ended up divorced and he sounds like the type of person who would turn his kids against their mother.

  45. wendy says:

    Wait….he doesn’t really KNOW if it was aborted? But he rents a BILLBOARD “just in case?” WTH! This guy has serious, SERIOUS mental issues. “I don’t know if you aborted our baby, but I’m going to libel you on a billboard because….well, because….I’m not sure why, but it’s MY $13,000…and the people that donated the money to me, thinking it was an abortion.” I but those suckers regretted giving him money once they found she didn’t necessarily have an abortion, he just “thinks” she may have. And what’s with “I’ll stop it from happening to others if she really did do it.” Really? You’re going to “stop” all abortions now with your douchebag billboard? Sounds to me like this guy was upset about being dumped, and wanted revenge, and because he is CLEARLY crazy, this was what he came up. There is NO WAY this is not libel and slander, and I hope she wins her case in court. What a nutjob.

  46. badgirl says:

    This guy really sickens me.

  47. sarah says:

    What happens when the woman decides to not have the abortion under the pretense that the father will take it and when he doesn’t, she stuck with a kid that she doesn’t even want? The child may be put up for adoption and hopefully, someone will take her/him. To those who think waiting to be adopted is all fluff and rainbows, are you planning to adopt them? Pro Lifers should be responsible for the lives they “save”.

  48. Yalith says:

    Sorry but I am sick to death about hearing about fathers rights. Since when do men need more rights?? Unless you propose some sort of plan that would prevent every loser bean lothario from walking away from any woman he’s managed to impregnate then it is the unfortunate truth that men should have no say except what the woman is willing to give them.
    Men want a say in their kids’ lives?
    Women don’t want to be abandoned with some loser’s kid
    can’t have it both ways

  49. Ally says:

    All I hope is that none of these women saying that their uterus is none of the father’s business and the father has zero rights receive either child support or any kind of help with their kids from the father because if any of you do, you are the biggest HYPOCRITE in the world and you are the perfect case of feminism when it is convenient for you but when it is detrimental to you, then you change your position. If you believe that men have no say as to whether to have the child then live on your word and don’t ask a man to help you with your child after the child is born, because it was ONLY your decision to go through the pregnancy therefore the child is only your responsibility and men shouldn’t bear the burden of a child they don’t want. And this has nothing to do with the child’s right, that is only an excuse to justify a huge inequity in the legal system. If a woman has the right to decide not to be a parent then men should have the right to walk away from a child they don’t want.

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