When I visited my favorite love and dating site, YourTango, and saw the headline “Do Women Over 35 Stand A Chance At Finding Love?,” I knew I had to click right away. I’m single, I’m in my 30′s, so I immediately thought, “Oh God, please don’t tell me that women over 35 have a harder time finding love!” But it turns out the experts at YourTango unanimously agree that finding love has no expiration date.
You can view the full conversation between the YourTango experts here, but I’ll share with you a few of my favorite quotes below:
“We should really be cultivating a sense for women that are older or women in general just around the abundance of love in their life.” – Kavita Patel
That’s something my friend Desiree and I have talked about a bit. Being single does not mean that there’s a dearth of love in your life, and one potential way to help manifest that romantic love you’re looking for is to appreciate and celebrate the platonic and brotherly love that is all around you. You can love and be loved without having a romantic partner!
“Think of the women that go fishing with their husbands. They don’t wanna fish. They go! All of these sort of compromises that don’t take away from your integrity and your authenticity, I think we have to encourage people to be more flexible about.” – Barbara Becker Holstein
It’s true that partaking in activities you might not love can help you grow closer to someone you do love. But that part about not compromising your integrity and authenticity is key.
“It’s not uncommon for first marriages to start at a later point in life. So for women, a lot of being single is choice.” – Carmelia Ray
Everything about my current singledom is chosen. I’m certainly open to meeting someone, but for the first time in my life I’m not desperately hoping for it, and being in that kind of power position in my love life feels like a secure way to lure the right person to me.
Happy dating, kids!
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