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Chris Brown Grammy Performance: Shocking Tweets from Our Girls

By Danielle Sullivan |

 chris brown, grammys 2012, grammys performances, Whitney Houston death, Adele

Chris Brown did not belong at the Grammys for starters.

I’m not gonna lie, I was not happy to see Chris Brown perform (lip-sync) at the Grammys (let alone twice!). I do believe in second chances and forgiveness, and it’s one thing to let him resume his career in entertainment, but it’s quite another to praise him. He shouldn’t be praised or given awards; he’s an abuser.

Wasn’t that sending the wrong message to our kids? I mean, there were countless preteens and teens watching the show. Wouldn’t they see his performance as a sign that it was OK to beat up women? Would they think Rihanna deserved the abuse? Did they even think of these things? While Jennifer Hudson’s tribute to Whitney Houston was a definite highlight, maybe Chris Brown was just the very low … lowlight. Maybe I was getting ahead of myself, I thought.

And then I saw this.

In the Twitter universe, teens and young women were tweeting about Brown and asking him to beat them, among other things:

“Call me crazy but I would let Chris Brown beat me up any day.”

“Everyone shut up about Chris Brown being a woman beater…he can beat me all night if he wants to.”

“I’d let Chris Brown beat me up any time” #womanbeater

“Like I’ve said multiple times before, Chris Brown can beat me up all he wants…I’d do anything to have him”

Disturbing just doesn’t even cover this round-up of tweets (you can see the full list here). What the hell are our girls thinking? More importantly, how did they mentally get there? Like with too many things today, the media plays a role. If we condone the behavior or worse, applaud it (even for millions of dollars), we are failing our kids- boys and girls.

In case you haven’t read about the brutality of the beating, here is an excerpt from the official police report:

“A verbal argument ensued and Brown pulled the vehicle over on an unknown street, reached over Robyn F. with his right hand, opened the car door and attempted to force her out. Brown was unable to force Robyn F. out of the vehicle because she was wearing a seat belt. When he could not force her to exit, he took his right hand and shoved her head against he passenger window of the vehicle, causing an approximate one-inch raised circular contusion.

“Robyn F. turned to face Brown and he punched her in the left eye with his right hand. He then drove away in the vehicle and continued to punch her in the face with his right hand while steering the vehicle with his left hand. The assault caused Robyn F.’s mouth to fill with blood and blood to splatter all over her clothing and the interior of the vehicle.

“Brown looked at Robyn F. and stated, ‘I’m going to beat the sh– out of you when we get home! You wait and see!’ ”

The detective said “Robyn F.” then used her cell phone to call her personal assistant Jennifer Rosales, who did not answer.

“Robyn F. pretended to talk to her and stated, ‘I’m on my way home. Make sure the police are there when I get there.’

“After Robyn F. faked the call, Brown looked at her and stated, ‘You just did the stupidest thing ever! Now I’m really going to kill you!’

On a night where we are all saying goodbye to Whitney Houston, a legend who was introduced to drugs by her bad boy husband, Bobby Brown, shouldn’t we expect more than to see an abuser take the stage in all his glory? Don’t our girls deserve it? People have made groups over not wanting Ellen DeGeneres to be a spokesperson because she is gay (yet who has never hurt anyone and only helps people),  but no one blinks an eye when a man who had been convicted of felony assault on his girlfriend is praised and allowed to perform on the Grammys twice in one night?

There is something seriously wrong and I don’t even know how to stop the madness that is media and societal morals today. It seems that anything goes as long as it brings in big bucks. As far as we have come with equal rights and women’s liberation, it is not nearly far enough. We are still telling our girls that they are not worthy to not be hit, not worthy of fair treatment, not worthy of respect, or in other words, just not worthy.

The majority of the show itself was nonsense, and little more than over-hyped packages of hoopla. Just look at Katie Perry and Nicki Minaj. I don’t even know what the point was of their performances. Thank the Lord for Adele and Jennifer Hudson who need no explosions, electronics, exorcisms or gimmicks to give goosebumps.

In stark contrast, Adele is a stellar role model for our girls, (plus her vocals can bring you to tears, they’re just that beautiful). She is a 23-year-old who shows us what a strong woman is: self-confident and strong. She doesn’t have to slink down to the point of sexualizing herself or using shock value to gather an audience. She can actually sing.

Hudson, despite losing her family (mother, sister and nephew) at the hands of an abuser and having to sing on short notice on an intensely emotional night, nailed it perfectly with her tribute to Whitney Houston. She is another example for our girls.

There are too many extremely talented and decent artists in today’s music to give a platform to abusers. Grammys, you missed the boat on this one, and it looks like from these tweets that the damage only continues.

Today will see teens walking the school hallways talking about how hot Chris Brown the convicted abuser is, and how they would endure a beating to be with him.

It’s nothing but simply horrifying.

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24 thoughts on “Chris Brown Grammy Performance: Shocking Tweets from Our Girls

  1. DRO says:

    I agree with you. By having him on the show, adults are sending the message that what he did was forgivable and trivial. It was a terrible decision.

  2. Kristin says:

    AND he won an award??? How did he even deserve to be nominated? That guy is a complete loser. I don’t remember ever hearing the song he “performed” last night. My girls were unimpressed, thank God. They’re too young to know what he did, and I didn’t want to bring it up last night. Thanks for the article!

  3. casey says:

    I was totally totally disturbed by his presence at the Grammys. It was like business as usual. Yeah he was convicted of beating up his gf but no biggie lets let him perform twice and award him at the Grammys. I’m all about second chances for people but there also has to be some consequences.

  4. Shari says:

    Disgusting. Really Disgusting.

  5. Mike says:

    I dont support was mr brown did however people need to stop blaming the media for bad parenting skills. Kids these days will do and say watever they want because parents let tv and media taise thier kids. Parents need to be more involved in thier childrens lives !

  6. Mom Spark says:

    It is totally disgusting and irresponsible. Who thinks this is ok???

  7. jbt says:

    I could not agree more. i had the same reaction when I saw him receive his award. In fact, I turned it off at that point.

  8. goddess says:

    I’m sorry but the only reason I cry when I hear Adele sing is that she drives me up a freaking wall, LOL! Honestly- I know that by measures and standards she is supposed to be a great singer. Bu t I detest her voice.

    Brown? He’s a tool. I have no use for women beaters,. Ever. They just cease to exist in my book.

  9. AllieKat says:

    I couldn’t agree more with you. I switched channels when that abuser came on, with his wanna-be Michael Jackson moves, it disgusted me. It also makes me sad to know these young girls are tweeting this way about him. It worries me so much, as I will be a first time mom next month to a daughter. I will know that I failed as a mom if she ever thinks that this is OK, to support this kind of behavior all for the almighty dollar.

    And yes, I worry about the garbage my daughter will be listening to called “music” nowadays as well. There is just a handful of REAL talented musicians out there compared to the rest of the marketing machine performers that sell out and have no talent to begin with anyways and just shake their booties like a bunch of glorified strippers!

    Even though we can’t control the media, we can at least all have real talks with our daughters (and sons) so even if they are exposed to this, they will know better.

  10. CHRISTINA HOUDE says:

    I am shocked and amazed at this blog and the responses to it. You state that you are willing to forgive, yet, Chris Brown is not allowed to perform in public or win an award for the good things he has done. And, then, to top it off, you state that Hudson’s tribute was a highlight. Whitney Houston was a drug addict. In most professional circles, drug addiction is just as much of a disease as rage. How can Houston be revered while Brown is degraded. I agree that Brown shouldn’t have done what he did but Houston shouldn’t have either. The response to Brown is the fault of each individual who wants to be beaten by him. This is not his fault.

  11. Ronald Lewis says:

    You people need to shake yourselves, he is still a kid and he is still learning life, so he made a mistake is his life suppose toi stop?!? NO!! He did the crime and payed for it, your moms obviously made a mistake when she had you and I’m sure she was forgiven. Go get a life and leave that kid alone!!

  12. Ronald Lewis says:

    Go back to your lonely worthless lives and kill yourselves, he won the award and deserved it!! In the words of T.I you can hate if you want to but you’ll just be wasting your time!!!

  13. goddess says:

    Nooooope. Not going to happen. He is a bottom-feeding, scum0-psucking, cowardly loser and a pathetic excuse for a real man.
    Chris Brown is 22 yr old. I met my husband when he was 18, we were MARRIED and planning to buy a home at 22. In the 33 years since we met,. he’s never made a MOVE to hit me, or even verbally abuse me.
    I don’t GIVE abusers second chance=- on a personal or entertainment level.
    Furthermore, I usually lump those who agree with him into the same category: LOSERS.

  14. Juan Changstein says:

    I think to most effective way to send a message is for people to have discussions with their children, sons and daughters, about what Chris Brown did, and about how we are rewarding him by supporting his music. It seems to me that when we support people with low morals with our dollars, we are sending a message that says their behavior is ok with us, now here’s is some money. It is up to us to decide who is ok to support, and who is not, whether it’s a Kardashian, Hilton, Chris Brown, or even for some, Ellen Degeneres. If we aren’t having those conversations with our kids, then we should really be doing a better job.

  15. Harrison Madden says:

    Rihanna deserves no more sympathy, all of the people against chris brown probably don’t know that rihanna got “thug life” tattooed across her knuckles or that she is considering getting back with him. Abuse happens everywhere, but it is a social issue not a work issue since he is in the music business. Tiger woods cheated multiple times on his wife, do you think he should not be allowed to attend major tournaments? So many great artists have drug addictions, like Whitney Houston, should they not be allowed at the grammys? Your arguments are not backed by anything more than a hatred of chris brown, the focus should be on the girls saying they are willing to be hit, not chris browns one time mistake. Everyone is so quick to judge but so slow to forgive.

  16. goddess says:

    “Abuse happens everywhere, but it is a social issue not a work issue since he is in the music business”

    And my money is MY issue and I can use the value of that dollar to not support him, to castigate him and to let his sponsors and record company know.
    No great loss as I was never into his robo-voice crap anyway.
    Throwing goat horns for metal!

    “Your arguments are not backed by anything more than a hatred of chris brown, “”

    NO , you missed the finer point: It’s disgust and intolerance toward MEN WHO BEAT WOMEN.

    “Everyone is so quick to judge but so slow to forgive.”

    I’ve never been big on second chances for certain things. Beating women or children, rape, incest , pedophilia, torture and murder are the bigguns on the list.

  17. Sarah Jackson says:

    Every time he comes on the radio I change the station and when my kids ask why, I tell them “Because we don’t support girl beaters.” I’m pretty much sick of how the media runs today’s world – I like all kinds of music and I’m not against adult lyrics being listened to by adults – but the media is targeting kids with sex and violence and that’s just wrong. Whatever happened to keeping adult themes for adults and keeping it clean for the kids? What’s up with kids turning into adult wannabes? Parents are the ones who need to dig in their heels and say enough is enough – turn the channel, change the station, don’t buy the mp3s, don’t support the message. And Amen to Goddess – what you said all day long!

  18. Rod says:

    I’m sure he chose to lip synch because he is incapable of reproducing his sound live. The grammys are about music not about acting like you are singing to electronically manipulated vocals produced in a studio.

  19. Monroeedoll says:

    i do believe he should be given a award for TALENT! who cares if he beat a girl it was the past its the future just LEAVE the poor GUY ALONE already!

  20. Matt mmWine Horbund says:

    It’s not up to the Grammys or any station to police society. It’s not up to them to say what is right or wrong. It’s up to individuals, and more specifically parents. If the parents don’t take an active role in what the children watch, then arent they by default saying it’s ok? And if it’s ok in their value system, who are we to judge? When did we become the all-mighty? Frankly, I dont like anyone telling me what i can or cant do. ESPECIALLY under the guise of “for the greater good”. Sorry, I rarely agree with the greater good, so I dont want anything that’s for it.

    That said, when he came on the tv, i changed the channel. My family wont support him, and my son knows what he did is wrong. I’m sorry other families dont take an active role in what their children learn, listen to and watch. I do with mine. And I still dont need anyone telling me what is right or wrong or permissible to be on tv for the greater good….

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