I’m not gonna lie, I was not happy to see Chris Brown perform (lip-sync) at the Grammys (let alone twice!). I do believe in second chances and forgiveness, and it’s one thing to let him resume his career in entertainment, but it’s quite another to praise him. He shouldn’t be praised or given awards; he’s an abuser.
Wasn’t that sending the wrong message to our kids? I mean, there were countless preteens and teens watching the show. Wouldn’t they see his performance as a sign that it was OK to beat up women? Would they think Rihanna deserved the abuse? Did they even think of these things? While Jennifer Hudson’s tribute to Whitney Houston was a definite highlight, maybe Chris Brown was just the very low … lowlight. Maybe I was getting ahead of myself, I thought.
And then I saw this.
In the Twitter universe, teens and young women were tweeting about Brown and asking him to beat them, among other things:
“Call me crazy but I would let Chris Brown beat me up any day.”
“Everyone shut up about Chris Brown being a woman beater…he can beat me all night if he wants to.”
“I’d let Chris Brown beat me up any time” #womanbeater
“Like I’ve said multiple times before, Chris Brown can beat me up all he wants…I’d do anything to have him”
Disturbing just doesn’t even cover this round-up of tweets (you can see the full list here). What the hell are our girls thinking? More importantly, how did they mentally get there? Like with too many things today, the media plays a role. If we condone the behavior or worse, applaud it (even for millions of dollars), we are failing our kids- boys and girls.
In case you haven’t read about the brutality of the beating, here is an excerpt from the official police report:
“A verbal argument ensued and Brown pulled the vehicle over on an unknown street, reached over Robyn F. with his right hand, opened the car door and attempted to force her out. Brown was unable to force Robyn F. out of the vehicle because she was wearing a seat belt. When he could not force her to exit, he took his right hand and shoved her head against he passenger window of the vehicle, causing an approximate one-inch raised circular contusion.
“Robyn F. turned to face Brown and he punched her in the left eye with his right hand. He then drove away in the vehicle and continued to punch her in the face with his right hand while steering the vehicle with his left hand. The assault caused Robyn F.’s mouth to fill with blood and blood to splatter all over her clothing and the interior of the vehicle.
“Brown looked at Robyn F. and stated, ‘I’m going to beat the sh– out of you when we get home! You wait and see!’ ”
The detective said “Robyn F.” then used her cell phone to call her personal assistant Jennifer Rosales, who did not answer.
“Robyn F. pretended to talk to her and stated, ‘I’m on my way home. Make sure the police are there when I get there.’
“After Robyn F. faked the call, Brown looked at her and stated, ‘You just did the stupidest thing ever! Now I’m really going to kill you!’
On a night where we are all saying goodbye to Whitney Houston, a legend who was introduced to drugs by her bad boy husband, Bobby Brown, shouldn’t we expect more than to see an abuser take the stage in all his glory? Don’t our girls deserve it? People have made groups over not wanting Ellen DeGeneres to be a spokesperson because she is gay (yet who has never hurt anyone and only helps people), but no one blinks an eye when a man who had been convicted of felony assault on his girlfriend is praised and allowed to perform on the Grammys twice in one night?
There is something seriously wrong and I don’t even know how to stop the madness that is media and societal morals today. It seems that anything goes as long as it brings in big bucks. As far as we have come with equal rights and women’s liberation, it is not nearly far enough. We are still telling our girls that they are not worthy to not be hit, not worthy of fair treatment, not worthy of respect, or in other words, just not worthy.
The majority of the show itself was nonsense, and little more than over-hyped packages of hoopla. Just look at Katie Perry and Nicki Minaj. I don’t even know what the point was of their performances. Thank the Lord for Adele and Jennifer Hudson who need no explosions, electronics, exorcisms or gimmicks to give goosebumps.
In stark contrast, Adele is a stellar role model for our girls, (plus her vocals can bring you to tears, they’re just that beautiful). She is a 23-year-old who shows us what a strong woman is: self-confident and strong. She doesn’t have to slink down to the point of sexualizing herself or using shock value to gather an audience. She can actually sing.
Hudson, despite losing her family (mother, sister and nephew) at the hands of an abuser and having to sing on short notice on an intensely emotional night, nailed it perfectly with her tribute to Whitney Houston. She is another example for our girls.
There are too many extremely talented and decent artists in today’s music to give a platform to abusers. Grammys, you missed the boat on this one, and it looks like from these tweets that the damage only continues.
Today will see teens walking the school hallways talking about how hot Chris Brown the convicted abuser is, and how they would endure a beating to be with him.
It’s nothing but simply horrifying.
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