Courtney Cox & David Arquette Do It Right: The Child-Focused DivorceMonica Bielanko
Okay, so, yes. Yes, I watched the Dancing With The Stars two-hour premiere last night and I am going to watch tonight to see who gets kicked off.
I guess the hype got to me.
One of the main things I noted during last night’s show, aside from the fact that my fierce hatred for she-devil Nancy Grace was solidified, was the fact that Courteney Cox and daughter Coco showed up to cheer on David Arquette as he waltzed across the dance floor.
Wait. Aren’t they separated? Why, yes. Yes they are. So why is she on the show cheering him on? Because she’s an adult and the mother of his child, that’s why.
Recently the Wall Street Journal published an article on children and divorce. The article offers the standard advice on how to parent cooperatively through divorce and put the best interests of the children first. Because, you know, the parents are divorcing, not the children. But if you scroll through some of the comments you’d think, as this website reports, that getting along with your ex was a crime.
In fact, as “One letter to the editor from a child whose parents had divorced 40 years ago preferred couples who kept fighting instead of faking cooperation.”
It reminded me of David and Courteney, one couple who is getting it right. Why the hate? Sometimes, wait, no, a majority of the time, stuff just doesn’t work out. But why drag stuff out and make your kids suffer? I never understood that. My dad badmouthed my mom for decades. DECADES. What for? Where did it get him? Nowhere. But he has a daughter who is angry he couldn’t just move on for the love of God, just move on already, please don’t talk about mom like that anymore…
still. To this day, he bad mouths my mom. They divorced THIRTY YEARS AGO.
I haven’t been divorced so I don’t know what drives couples to make it as bad as it can possibly be for everyone involved. Can anyone enlighten me? Is there ever a reason to badmouth an ex who is the parent of your children? You thought enough of the person to have children with them so just move on already. I know divorce can be contentious and I know people can be dirt bags. But is it really worth years and years of hatred played out in front of children? Am I missing something?
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