Yep, it’s official: Facebook is allowing parents to add their unborn children to the relatives section of their facebook page. I know. They just won’t stop, will they? Now, before we go any further discussing this, I want you to just take three deep breaths:
Okay. So, here we are. Facebook hasn’t made enough headway in taking over our lives with Farmville, chats, contests and everything else – it is now including the not-yet-born. Is this a good thing or a bad thing?
There’s no doubt that when a baby is coming, families want to celebrate. Setting up a Facebook page for your unborn child can definitely be a great way to celebrate and to share information with your Facebook friends (you are allowed to mention the baby’s name and gender, should you choose, on the new pages, and of course you can post photos of ultrasounds). I’m sure that the next steps will be connecting baby registries, baby name guessing games, and birth weight contests. There is no doubt that these pages could be a really fun way to share your joy.
So what’s the down side?
Perhaps I’m letting my personal experience color this, but… I’d never want to be the parent that had to delete that page.
I lost twin boys when I was six months pregnant – well past the “it’s safe to tell everyone” stage – and it was bad enough trying to figure out how to tell people in person (and frankly, it was nearly a year before I stopped running into people that I had to tell). In my years in the blogosphere I cannot tell you how many women I know that have lost babies late in pregnancy, had still births, or lost children that were only a few days old.
Having that celebratory Facebook page could become just another thing set to torture parents during grief.
What do you think? Are Facebook pages for unborn children appropriate? Are there privacy concerns with setting up this sort of page? Do you think this is a wise move? Would you set up a page if you were pregnant? Please share in the comments!