Dear BeyoncÃ©: Welcome To The Scrutiny of MotherhoodCecily Kellogg
Congratulations on your pregnancy! You looked amazing at the Video Music Awards, as well as in your new video.
I suspect you might be feeling a little fame weary right now because of that whole Australian talk show thing, where everyone thought your baby bump “deflated” when you sat down to be interviewed. They point to the “oops” you said as you sat as proof, but as a former pregnant girl myself, I’m betting that was about a fart. What is it with pregnancy and the farts, right?
I know you’re quite used to the rumor mill and the gossip mongers. It’s all the price of fame. But I want to warn you. When you become a mother? It gets SO MUCH WORSE.
When my daughter was just a few weeks old, I took her out for a walk. It was July, so she was dressed simply in a onsie in the stroller. I didn’t get ten feet from my house before an old lady said, “Put a sweater on that baby!” Then there was the time at the grocery store when a woman quizzed me about my NEXT baby and when I said I wasn’t having more she said, “But you MUST have a son for your husband!”
This all doesn’t even count the scrutiny I get because I’m a blogger. People have questioned every parental dilemma I’ve blogged about, told me my daughter is out of control, mused about whether or not she had bottle mouth (she didn’t), and don’t even get me started about how people reacted that time she got lice!
Now, I realize that I’m just a small mom blogger, not an international celebrity like you. But as I’ve watched the media shit storm you’re enduring about whether or not you are “faking” your pregnancy publicly while using a surrogate (which, hey, if you are, good for you! There are LOTS of different ways to build families), I can’t help but feeling like letting you know you aren’t alone. We moms bear more than our fair share of public scrutiny, even when we’re NOT famous, so it’s going to probably be pretty rough for you. Hell, look what happened that time poor Katie Holmes let Suri leave the house wearing some lipstick? It’s gonna totally suck.
But don’t worry. It’s worth it. Mothering is the most amazing, wonderful, fantastic thing you can do, even when it sucks and is hard. You’re going to love it. Just remember to gird your loins, so to speak, and prepare for your life to be even MORE public than it is now.
PS: I can totally tell you’re really pregnant, by the way, in your new video. Bumps can be faked, but pregnant boobs? NOT SO MUCH.