Yesterday, Strollerderby took a closer look at so-called “crisis pregnancy centers.” Their pretense is to provide support and options to pregnant women, but in reality, most only discuss one option with the women who walk through their doors. That of pro-life. Legislation has recently been proposed which would force such centers to make their operating practices more clear.
One group of people who don’t require legislation to help explain their agenda, however, are the pro-life zealots who picket outside various abortion centers across the country. Often have we seen these picketers chanting their rhetoric at woman who are in the middle of a tragic situation. Often, too, have we heard such women describe the turmoil these demonstrators subjected them to.
But recently, it was a man, Aaron Gouveia, who used his voice to describe the ordeal he and his wife endured. And in so doing, he gave the judgmental sign-carriers a taste of their own medicine. For at the center of his compelling story is a video he made in which he tells these people in no uncertain terms exactly what he thinks about their actions.
“You’re killing your unborn baby.”
Those were the words shouted at Aaron and his wife, who was 16 weeks pregnant with their second child, as they made their way into a Brookline, MA women’s center earlier this year. They were experiencing a nightmare. Their unborn child had an extremely rare congenital deformity which left their baby with fused legs, as well as with no bladder or kidneys. The chance of survival was literally zero.
After seeking multiple opinions from some of the best medical minds in the Boston area, the couple felt they were left with but one option. And while entering the facility where that option would be carried out, they were forced to listen to sanctimonious people judging them for a decision that no one would ever want to make.
Gouveia describes it as the worst day of their lives. And on that day, he was left to try to comfort his wife as she waited in the lobby before the procedure, but she was inconsolable. Gouveia felt helpless. Their pain was impossible to reconcile, and on top of that, strangers had seen fit to pile on. What’s worse, he couldn’t even accompany his wife during the procedure. Sadly, it seemed as if there were nothing he could do. Until instinct took over.
That’s when the father and husband confronted the very people whose callous behavior had somehow made the worst imaginable scenario even more difficult to bear. Gouveia captured the encounter on video. A few things should be noted about it.
- First, especially considering what was happening to his world at the time of filming, Gouveia is incredibly poised and extremely well spoken.
- The demonstrators? Ironically, they are at a loss for words when Gouveia forces them to switch roles. (One actually threatens to call the cops!)
- The video has blown up, receiving over half a million hits thanks, in part, to being featured on Gouveia’s own blog, as well as on the GoodMenProject, and Salon.
- As the Salon piece stated, “the video…is a reminder that reproductive rights isn’t just a women’s issue,” but one which also affects men in unimaginable ways.
Here it is:
Photo: Morgue File
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