Do you swear at your kids? In front of your kids? One mom blogger is admitting that she swears at her kids. Well, kind of. Sort of.
But she thinks f-bombs and other assorted colorful language, even if she never says it… and admits that it really takes the edge off.
Scary Mommy wrote a blog post called “F**k You, Kids,” which opens with “I swear at my kids,” boils down the curse words, and makes mention that this is all actually happening internally.
Scary Mommy argues that “by thinking these awful things, I keep myself from actually saying anything terrible to them. Which, I argue, would be far worse.”
Naturally, her blog post is drawing criticism.
Is it okay to just think about cursing your kids out – but never really following through? Or is keeping those negative thoughts inside some wake up call that you have some sort of anger issues bubbling beneath the surface?
With the popularity of “Go the F**k to Sleep” and the mostly positive reception the book has received, I have to imagine that a lot of parents practice this internal cursing as a way of maintaining sanity.
I definitely have thought of the f-bomb in my head or muttered a saucy little curse word while doing laundry and out of earshot of the kids.
I’d argue “who hasn’t done this,” but clearly there are people with those sunny dispositions who can keep everything in check or who don’t have ever utter curse words. It happens.
For the most part though, I think a lot of us can relate.
Just recently, my husband commented (away from the kids, of course) that our kids were “kind of being assholes.” Does that mean we love them any less? No. But we had a fun little giggle over the comment and vented for a moment before diving back into the parenting game.
Is this silent venting technique okay to add to the parental survival guide? Or do you think it’s wrong?
It reminds me of a Tina Fey quote, where she jokes that swearing at kids is okay because “I think that any person being an a** hole deserves it. Especially toddlers — they’re total d-bags. You gotta let them know.”
Related: I let my 4-year-old swear, and I’m okay with it.