When my friend told me her sister-in-law didn’t want her husband at the birth of their first child, I thought she was kidding. You do realize he’s seen it all before, right?
But according to a LilSugar survey this week, only sixty-three percent of women are adament that dad be there for the big moment. I’m not sure if the other thirty-seven are just aware their partners might have extenuating circumstances or really don’t want them there at all.
I think most of us are well aware it’s not always POSSIBLE for your partner to be there. Life gets in the way. Or in the case of a lot of military families these days, an ocean.
But as the days got closer to my due date, if my husband dared put his office phone on “Do Not Disturb” to get some work done, he got a ration of ranting out of me. He wasn’t overseas, but I was terrified he’d be anywhere BUT the hospital when it was time.
In the end, he was there, and he barely left my side for fear that he’d miss something. I would have been pretty P-O’d had he chosen some place else to be, but he wanted to be there – this was his moment too.
So I wonder – other than those moments when life just makes it impossible – how a guy could want to be anywhere else, or a woman NOT want him there? It’s definitely not THE best day of your life, but it’s right up there as one of the most important.
Would you have given him an out ladies? Dads, would you have wanted one?