It’s no secret that married people use the Internet to cheat. Lots of them. There are whole websites dedicated to cheating, and they do pretty well for themselves. Facebook is cited in 20% of divorce cases.
Now, some jilted spouses are alleging that Facebook is especially fertile ground for starting an online affair. Experts are backing them up.
What makes the social networking giant more dangerous to marriages than text messages, email or other online communication? Unlike those other tools, Facebook brings you face to virtual face with your old flames.
Every ex-boyfriend from my wild youth is on Facebook these days. We play Scrabble together. I see cute pictures of their kids, and read updates about their jobs, the books they read, the concerts they see.
As it happens, my exes and I broke up for good reasons. I’m content to leave those relationships at the polite, Scrabble-playing, commenting-on-cute-kid photos level.
But it’s easy to see how the same tool that helps revive old friendships can be used to kindle old flames.
Therapist Stacey Kaiser told “Prime News”:
It’s not just your everyday affair. When it comes to something like Facebook, you are reconnecting with a long-lost love. All those teenage feelings, those college feelings come back again, you feel young again, and it drives you to do something you don’t normally do.
For people looking to cheat, Facebook is a double-edged sword. All those sweet nothings you send through the site can be subpoenaed by a divorce attorney.
Photo: Ed Yourdon