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Facebook: Homewrecker Or Marriage Counselor? Both?

Is she checking her husband's Facebook status?

Stephanie Wilder-Taylor is always funny, so it’s hardly surprising that her thoughts on Facebook and marriage had me cracking up.

First it looks like Facebook will wreck her marriage, when she finds out her husband has a female friend who thinks he’s funny, a free lunch hour in the middle of his workday and – worst of all – doesn’t like her pink Crocs. Then she notices that his Facebook page is full of sweet pictures of her, and whew everything is alright again.

So Stephanie is being a little silly here, but really, don’t we all sort of spy on our spouses through Facebook? Or wish we could?

My biggest marital problem with Facebook is that my husband doesn’t use it. Ditto Twitter. Sure, he has accounts on every social media site I frequent, but they’re gathering dust while he lives life wholly in the real world. There’s no opportunity to browse through his recent activities and see what he’s interested in or who he’s talking to. If I want to know, I have to do it the old-fashioned way: by talking to the man myself.

Like Stephanie and her hubby, we don’t always find time to do that. It’d be a lot simpler if Facebook loaded me up with conversation starters like, “So, tell me about this Mad Scientists For Greenpeace group you just joined” or “Who is Shelly, anyway?”

But no. No Facebook inspiration for me.

While my husband ignores Facebook, though, his family lives on it. That means I get to use the site knowing every word I post will be read by my mother-in-law. Awesome.

Does Facebook play a role in your marriage? Is it a homewrecker or a lifesaver? Any funny Facebook stories to share?

Photo: Ed Yourdon

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