Facebook Stalking Your Biological Kidtoddler-times
The sudden opening of Facebook pages scared plenty of people into purging their pages of their drunken idiocy, but for one mother who gave up her son to adoption, it was a gift.
While you were trying to figure out if Mark Zuckerberg was indeed drunk or stoned, Shannon Des Roches Rosa was lovingly taking in every last detail of her biological son’s life, piece by amazing piece.
Rosa’s semi-open adoption was closed after the boy’s mom died fifteen years ago. So the mom of three more and blogger has had to make do with the smidge of information she stumbled on a few years back when the boy joined Facebook – with very limited public page.
Then, jackpot. Rosa described her find on BlogHer as Pandora’s Box. What she could find there could hurt her . . . but like any real mom (yes, biological moms are “real” moms), she dove in.
And before you start crying foul, Rosa purged her BlogHer piece of any detailed info on the boy – now man – and has not actually contacted him, despite pouring through his profile piece by piece.
Says Rosa, “wish there was some way to find out if my birth son knows his real story. Facebook makes it tempting to try: I could friend him at any time, or even message him on the pretense that my mother is a computer-challenged former friend of his dad who is looking to get back in touch (not entirely untrue; they were friends of friends, which is how our private adoption arrangement came into being). But I never will, even though my heart aches for the motherless young man unaware of his maternal spare. Disrupting his life is not a moral burden I’m willing to shoulder.”
Her story is that of a mother, plain and simple. Her restraint admirable, and it sort of makes all that Facebook shenanigans worth it, don’t you think?
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